"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to gauge if a girl wants to hook up?

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Okay so I met up with a girl online a few nights ago, date went well we had a lot of drinks and made out a little bit. I'm looking for dating/having fun, she has said the same, but I'm not sure how quickly to move things. I'm tempted to invite her over to "watch a movie" but at the same time I don't want her to think I'm just after sex and kill any later opportunity. Should I do one more fun "date" and then maybe next time bring her back or do I go for it right away?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i agree with espi

and "having fun" is the universal term for "i just want to bang"

if you both agreed you're just looking to "have fun" i would assume she's down

you don't lose anything by going for it. there's always more girls out there
 
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I didn't mean to extrapolate by saying she was just "looking for fun"...what she actually said was she doesn't have any predetermined expectations, and another time mentioned she isn't necessarily looking for a relationship. So yeah, that could definitely be taken as she is just looking for to go out, have fun, casually date and then maybe if something develops a relationship can start.

That's exactly what I'm looking for as well to be honest. I wouldn't rule out a relationship either but I wanna hook up and have fun first and see what happens instead of dating with the sole purpose of trying to form a relationship. Honestly the past few months is the first time in my life I've had this mindset...before I try to appease them with traditional dating format with intention of trying to get a relationship (then hopefully sex) instead of just having fun, doing whatever I want, and worrying about semantics later.

I have a suspicion she's on the same track also, so I'll invite her over and hopefully things work out.
 
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