How to game girl at gym

[amoka]

No need to "focus on getting #". Simply ask: Hey, Katie, what's your number? Maybe we go catch a smoothie after workout sometime. You have nothing to loose.

 

[brian123]

Went in today and was benching with my buddy. I poked my head in her office and said "XXX can I ask you a personal training question if you have a moment?" She walked out to the bench and I mentioned to her how I was stuck on the same weight for a while now, and that I was hoping for some help from her. Very seriously I asked her to perform a cheer to motivate me. Right away she got a huge smile on my face and told me to shut up and gave me a push on the shoulder and said how she wasn't going to talk to me anymore, and how she thought I had a real question.

After I finished my sets, I playfully angrily poked my head back into her office and told her thanks for nothing, I couldn't get any more reps out of that weight thanks to her not helping me. She laughed again. I walked away pretending to be mad. I did my regular routine with my buddy, but she was gone from her desk on my way out.

I may not see her again until I go back to the gym Monday. Should I just hold off until then, or should I send her a joking email?

I was thinking of something along the lines of asking her who I could fill out a complaint form to due to her poor quality of personal training she offered and how she was unwilling to help me.

Thoughts? I know I may be overthinking this, but all the help I am getting is def helping me to improve my game, so the next time I will be that much farther ahead.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

man that was great!

i'd stick to face-to-face for a bit if i were you... email only when you get emailed.

i think it's time for you to step up and get the number.

 

[brian123]

thanks for the advice from the both of you. The only time I've given her more than 2 minutes total of my time is when we played horse. She usually works out Mondays the same time as me, so I'll get my workout in and then be flirty with her saying something along the lines of what I posted above about the complaint form.

Monday I might challenge her to horse again or something else fun, and mention that I am starving and would like to get something to eat after working out and just say

"I gotta grab something to eat, I'm going to grab a slice at XXX, ill see you there in an hour"

If she pulls out a lame excuse she is not really interested. If she is interested, she will make the time to go.

Good advice all, I got 2-3 other girls I am working on this weekend.

Thanks men.

 

[brian123]

If it's worth anything to you, I've been rejected by a blonde, tall, siliconed-tittyed woman at my gym, and though it was a little embarrassing to deal with, I continued evolving my game, and, let me tell you, nothing feels better to me than bringing along my hot-azz GF into the gym to work out with me...seeing that blonde woman's demeanor change toward me is empowering...

Even though you got rejected, you at least tried. I've been eying her for the last ~2 months since she started to work there and never said more than a sentence to her. It felt great to finally work up the guts and make SOME kind of move. No matter what, at least I cannot say I didn't try.

 

[tsmith2334]

I gotta grab something to eat, I'm going to grab a slice at XXX, ill see you there in an hour

I HATE the wording strategy you just did. It rarely works. It just seems too aggressive and desperate. Trust me, most women see through it and don't appreciate it.

Just by implying you'll see her there doesn't mean she'll definitely show. She'll either say yes or no anyway.

Ask her if she wants to come along like you would anyone else. Ultimately it is their choice and trying to bait them in using aggressive wording is cheap and counteractive to how you want to come across.

She will most likely agree to a slice of pizza no matter how you ask. Just be confident, fun and laid back in your approach.

 

[brian123]

Just thought I'd keep everyone up to date.

Didn't speak to her since last week. She sent out her weekly workout email to everyone this week. I responded back with a quick busting/light hearted note to her. She responded back with something which I immediately thought exhibited fairly low interest.

When I went to the gym today, I noticed her working out in the corner of my eye as I went to my machine with my buddy. I noticed she she seemed to a quick double take at me as I walked in.I did a set or two and she came over and immediately broke into saying how my email was hilarious and she had a huge giggly smile on her face. We spoke/I busted on her a bit more when we'd run into each other during out workouts.

Near the end of my w/o, I asked her if she was up to another game of horse. She said she would, but she wasn't feeling well/had a headache etc... (idk if it was an excuse.) I asked her what sports she did like and she spoke about how she loved softball, volleyball and cheering.

I'll probably see her tomorrow morning once I am done playing bball with my friends, and I was thinking of busting her on how her headache was doing. I was also going to mention to her that if she ever wanted to throw the softball/baseball around to fire me off an email.

Advice?

Sorry for the rant, i am a recovering AFC, and I know how everyone's helpful advice lets me know what to do in this situation, but more importantly in future situations.

 

[Michele l'Arcangelo]

bump.

 

[MANG]

enough

enough with the horse. She already played with you once. Stop being an AFC. Ask her for her number straight up. Call a couple of days later, make small talk and then act like you have to go. After that call her a couple of days later and ask her out on a date.

 

[bam bam]

Hey Brain,

here are my two cents about your situation. I think you had a great opening and you still might but not sure for how long. You’re taking your time with her like she's going to be there forever. Why play this overly long exaggerated have to get her out on a date game?

We all seem to think that these games can make interest happen in a woman if there is none there to begin with. If she likes you she will make an attempt to make herself noticeable to you. Don't think that woman that like a guy just sit there and do nothing all the time. If you re-read your post you can clearly see that you're always doing all the work. Popping your head in, sending cute emails.

Actions speak louder than words my friend and friends. We focus on what (she says he says) a lot of the time but where does that really get us? People lie all the time what does not lie most of the time depending on what type of person you’re dealing with is effort people put into their interactions with people they like.

You have to pick up on interest which is her making moves to get to know you or having her go out of her way for you to notice her. Look for indicators of interest Brian not once you’ve created for her by going up saying hi. Such indicators are her emailing you something funny(only you), or her going out of her way to say hi to you… her coming over for no reason to chat you up…

You’re progress is very nice to read about though. Do not take what I wrote as being bad it’s just my perspective on your interaction.

If you want to test her interest, act the same way for the next month in the gym. But make no attempts to say hi to her unless it would involve in you being rude. Allow her to make at least 5% effort to make you notice her.

I like your Joe cool attitude of not caring but be cautious with that. It can backfire on you very quickly and easily. No one wants a cyborg for a partner and you don’t want to be emotionally dis-attached like I am. Its quiet a lonely and meaningless world that I do warn you not to enter. Show her you like her, show her you care about her, there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s when you show her that all you want in life is her and all you care about is her. That’s when it becomes creepy.

To love is to be human so love yourself brain everything that makes you is unique and beautiful. When you share be true to yourself and with people around you. They accept you, not some fault construct to please others and get along with everyone. So when you talk to woman ask them out for coffee, dinner, walks…. They accept you for your truest if they decline… It’s neither their lose or yours it’s just two different people with different tastes in people. Don’t be bitter at these women but thank them for saving you’re time and money. When you are yourself at its purest and fullest woman who you get along with. Will really find it impossible to resist you anyways. That my fellow person is when you’ll have a hard time making choices in life about woman. Just be Brain yourself and let others be. Do not build up their characters or diminish them for both of those set you up for great disappointments in life. Our lives will always be disappointing if we build up these situations in our heads and then watch nature run its course on it. Just be Brain just be. There’s a great saying when you think about something you change it. That might be a bit of a butchering of the quote but that’s the general idea.

Bams

 

[Stud No1]

would love an update on this Brian. I would advise NEVER mention the cheering or horse game again unless instigated by her, you dont want to become a one trick pony, you need to bring other things to the table or her interest level will plummet. As hard as it is to believe you best time to act is now , she'll know already if she would like it to go anywhere or not. In fact it might only have been in her mind for a day or two and after that she might have decided you're just that nice guy at the gym. So many variables really, your best chance is just to ask her.

Of course this is so easy to put off but remember you're the man, be emotionally indifferent to the outcome. Easy for me to say but do your best Oh and no more funny emails dont reply to the next one

and bam bam, good post. its detached btw