"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to gain confidence when you have no friends, limited social skills

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and generally have grown to not like yourself very much?

I have aspergers, I don't use it as an excuse for failing, I wouldn't even admit to myself that I had it until I was 22. Now I'm 26 and I've had 4 years to reflect on how it's affected me.

I'm making a genuine effort to try new things such as meetup groups even though it doesn't come naturally for me.

At this point I have the frame of mind of a complete outsider, I don't have much of a clue how other people live or what makes them tick. Men or women.

I have a reasonable job but the cost of living is so high I'm still not independent. I hope to get my own place next year but I don't hold out much hope of being able to afford somewhere I would actually like to live.

My life is pretty ****. I know some guys can probably make this outsider personality work for them but they are the bad ass types who go out mountain climbing and wrestling bears while I'm at home masturbating or watching youtube videos.

I need a step by step plan to become that guy, but there's going to be so many steps involved for me, I don't even know what to do.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My usual formulas: Break outside of your comfort zones.

1. Start doing things you have never done before. Not going to social meetups, but physical activities, such as rock climbing, etc that you can put your mind into without awkward social moments.
2. Go somewhere you have never been. Stay for a few months if you have money, or just go on weekend trips.

1 will give you confidence. 2 will allow you to tell stories in social situations.

There is no end to this process. You do this till you die. Rinse and repeat
 
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sharkbeat said:
My usual formulas: Break outside of your comfort zones.

1. Start doing things you have never done before. Not going to social meetups, but physical activities, such as rock climbing, etc that you can put your mind into without awkward social moments.
2. Go somewhere you have never been. Stay for a few months if you have money, or just go on weekend trips.

1 will give you confidence. 2 will allow you to tell stories in social situations.

There is no end to this process. You do this till you die. Rinse and repeat
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This is a perfect short answer. For a longer answer, check out my 12 week "FA to Local Celebrity" guide on Youtube. 100% free. No BS.


Good luck man.
 
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