how to fool a Control Freak

[Flying Dutchman]

Hi peepz

recently been dating a w31 kind of a control freak..
Just lucky by being able recently to label her kind of behaviour which consists out of:

- Thorough questioning of my needs and decisions, to the point of detective
- Lots of energy to argue
- Keep confronting me subtile with stressing points sneaky like; suggest food or places i don't like
- Her favorite tv series is a detective serie
- Using crying
- Tendency to decide everything
- Tendency to plan things and than change it and change it again
- Using emotional buttons on me by speaking or texting to provoke control
- Last time when i slept there said no sex just before we went to bed this because she had to get up early the day after.. hmm didnt liked that one the most!
- She said her and her female colleagues think performing a BJ is humilating to them (got one but it was bad, maybe she did that on purpose..)

OK here is the deal i just want to keep banging her as long as i can, how to mess around with her mind. So i actually make it her difficult, i feel like revenge! how teach me some psycho tricks plz
Thank you and a happy Easter!

 

[Atom Smasher]

Moved - No age in profile.

You're with a loser. You must have a scarcity mentality to be putting up with her. I'd kick her to the curb so fast she wouldn't know what hit her.

 

[El Payaso]

A control freak will bring you down to her level and beat you with experience. How do you win? By walking away and not playing her mental games.

 

[logicallefty]

Reminds me of a girl I was with long long ago. If we met at a "seat yourself" restaurant, I would pick a table, and she would always want a different table. So once I picked the table she picked last time we were there, and sure enough, she didn't like that table now.

*IF* you want to b@ng this woman in the future go NC for a week and then contact her back. Tell her you were gone away to detective school so you could learn to keep up with her. If she questions it, make a joke out of it.

I wouldn't get too invested in her though. Women like this are really insecure deep down and they get off on being in control. Don't tell me??? (psychic cap on) She says she has been with controlling men in the past?? Or abused?? Or both?

 

[Flying Dutchman]

Reminds me of a girl I was with long long ago. If we met at a "seat yourself" restaurant, I would pick a table, and she would always want a different table. So once I picked the table she picked last time we were there, and sure enough, she didn't like that table now.

*IF* you want to b@ng this woman in the future go NC for a week and then contact her back. Tell her you were gone away to detective school so you could learn to keep up with her. If she questions it, make a joke out of it.

I wouldn't get too invested in her though. Women like this are really insecure deep down and they get off on being in control. Don't tell me??? (psychic cap on) She says she has been with controlling men in the past?? Or abused?? Or both?

Ok so NC instills control over her... Ok new update: this morning she whats apps me a message with a clear blue sky picture she implies with that its good weather at her place. An hour later i sended back a sky picture from my place and wrote: Happy Easter. Than she wrote me an hour later back happy easter and that she will tomorrow before we meet

I think have brought her to a point where she is the one to initiate contact as I have no NEED to it, i only need good sEks and a lot i deserved it! After last toxic encounter with a bPd TIPS plz

 

[RangerMIke]

She's still a control freak... you either let her go or say goodbye to your sanity.

 

[Crazybeachisgone]

Just been necking one for the past eight months. She was a 8.5 smoking blonde with a shed load of experience. Loved it all at first then gradually introduced her own rule book.....

Them started the flaking,tears, outbursts,manipulation by text, passive aggression, you name it. If she didn't get her own way then out came the *****.

Lot of effort in the end for little benefit, physical or emotional. She now wants to be just a friend but puts so little effort in I just don't bother. She wants to control our friendship and wants me to "be there as a best friend."

There are better women out there, you deserve them.

NC drives her mad BTW

Oh did I mention the BPD/HPD tendencies???

 

[Flying Dutchman]

Just been necking one for the past eight months. She was a 8.5 smoking blonde with a shed load of experience. Loved it all at first then gradually introduced her own rule book.....

Them started the flaking,tears, outbursts,manipulation by text, passive aggression, you name it. If she didn't get her own way then out came the *****.

Lot of effort in the end for little benefit, physical or emotional. She now wants to be just a friend but puts so little effort in I just don't bother. She wants to control our friendship and wants me to "be there as a best friend."

There are better women out there, you deserve them.

NC drives her mad BTW

Oh did I mention the BPD/HPD tendencies???

Intersting but question about NC i have never performed this trick. This means simply>? I do not contact her for a week, what if she contact me on whatsapp or on phone than simply don't answer?
Anymore tricks to remain a strong posture?

 

[Flying Dutchman]

There's different forms of NC, most notably going ghost and then of course no contact.
I think going ghost would be your best move here. It means that you don't make any effort to contact her until she reaches out to you. If you want to make it more interesting though, I'd say wait about 7-10 days before responding to any texts / calls. Once the waiting period is over, don't initiate contact, wait for her to make the effort. Then answer.
Generally NC is used when you get broken up with or visa versa. It means you go somewhere around 3 months with no contact whatsoever. Now this could be useful for you if you're willing to move on, which would be a good thing since it seems like she's done with you. If I were you, this would be the move id make. Just forget about her and move on to other women. Then a few months down the road, whenever she tries to get in touch with you, say "Oh hey! I forgot about you I've been really busy lately!" and leave it at that. And she may want to get back together, but just to really teach her a lesson, straight up reject her. You'll feel great about yourself trust me

Tomorrow she will be visiting me and we will go away for some days.. Than can I have a clear picture of how she is.
I would love to receive some more tips about how to stop her digging and keep a good posture so she doesn't find out I already have written her of lets say for 70%
For example where i need more guidance with is how to do something when she asks me something to do.. lets say i drive with her tuesday on highway and she asks me if i can stop at next gas station or something are there points how i need to look at it etc. to keep strong frame

 

[Crazybeachisgone]

Ghost works best if your still interested. NC is to purify and purge in my opinion.

Express little interest but reward what you percieve is favourable.

 

[Flying Dutchman]

Ghost works best if your still interested. NC is to purify and purge in my opinion.

Express little interest but reward what you percieve is favourable.

i am now applying ghost for a couple days and yeah its yielding some results, sadly this is the language they understand :rockon:

 

[SmooveMooves]

If she's controlling you make sure the only thing she's controlling is herself. She should know that your not going for anything and not doing something you don't want to do.

Some of you guys need to work on your Inner Game & Frame cause' even controlling chicks don't try that ish with me.

 

[El Payaso]

If she's controlling you make sure the only thing she's controlling is herself. She should know that your not going for anything and not doing something you don't want to do.

Some of you guys need to work on your Inner Game & Frame cause' even controlling chicks don't try that ish with me.

SPOT ON.

 

[Flying Dutchman]

and when we have sex it always take so long she says..
(probably lie not or excuse?)

I've been accused of this by one LTR long ago. Said I took too long. She would get off in like 5 minutes, 1 x, and then be done and good. In her case I think that was just really how she wanted it.

If this happened today, I'd be like "well I'm not no 1-minute man so maybe I'm not the right fit for you". Then be aloof and make he hamster spin all over the place.