How to Follow Up With Last Night's Date

[JBB84]

I had a date last night with a girl who I have been highly interested in for about a month now. This is the second time we have hung out, with a few weeks in between. We went out on a casual dinner date outdoors, conversation flowed, and it ended with an intense make-out session in my car in which she jumped over on top of me, straddling me for a good 15 minutes or so.

When I got home I sent her a text "I hope you got home alright! It was nice to see you." We had some drinks so I figured it was suited. She never responded and I haven't heard from her today either. This girl gives me more mixed signals than any other... maybe she has game? I almost sent her another text today until I got my ass on here and my mind in check. At this point I probably shouldn't say anything else unless if she says something first, right? Does it seem like I am overanalyzing her non-response to my text to her last night?

 

[cordoncordon]

Well here is how I always look at things. IF you were super interested in this girl, and she sent you a text saying the same thing last night, odds are you would reply with a "thanks, had a lot of fun, talk soon". Or something to that effect. You would probably not just ignore it. I mean if Brad Pitt took her out, and texted her what you did, she would have responded. So she is either a little game player, or not that interested. Considering your makeout session, I would say she is at least someone into you.

What I would do is NOT text or contact her in anyway for the next 5 days or so. If you don't hear from her, text her hello and ask her out again. If she accepts, escalate and try for sex. If she does not accept or she does and plays hard to get? I would stop contact all together and wait for her to contact you. And if she doesn't? Her loss.

 

[nismo-4]

It all matters whether or not she responds to you.

When you're on a date with a woman, she decides how far you'll get. She might make out with you but the whole time, have a boyfriend at home waiting to rail her. Makeouts don't mean sh*t. It's getting the sex. And if she won't give it to you, she's in another castle. And she just wants to be friends with you.

And to add: Mixed signals means little to no interest. Women who are interested in you won't confuse you. Would she be confused about a date with Brad Pitt? Hell no.

Case closed.

 

[VladPatton]

Leave her alone, see what happens. You don't know what's going on behind the scenes in her life, such as a bf, a fb, or another 4 guys she's pounding. Give it about a week. The results should speak volumes.

 

[like2jam]

This is why I wouldn't send the text you did. That's the type of text I would expect a girl to send to me. Plus, after a makeout session, ' it was nice to see you ', not sure that works. Sounds like something I would say to my cousin or a friend I hadn't seen in a while.

 

[3countriesPlan]

I read to mixed signals. OK dude Im pretty much your age and Ive fukked 140+ girls but the thing is Im not really a pro I just do what I do and that means just keep on as you started on -- put your bid in and dont think about it -- you are the shooter and the basketball she is the basket -- you shoot the ball by spitting game and she as the basket either gets scored on or you get the ball bounced back at which time you rebound and go for another shot until the next quarter at which time the basket changes ( a new girl)

 

[Iceberg]

This is why I wouldn't send the text you did. That's the type of text I would expect a girl to send to me. Plus, after a makeout session, ' it was nice to see you ', not sure that works. Sounds like something I would say to my cousin or a friend I hadn't seen in a while.

Agreed. The kiss goodnight was the only thing he needed. But still, that text he sent doesn't ruin anything with the girl. BUT it puts him in the position he's in now of uncomfortably waiting for a response.

The reality of the situation is this - she's not a girlfriend. She's just some girl you've gone on a date with. She doesn't need to be texting you smiley faces all day. Girls like this...basically you text them 2 or 3 days before you want to meet them with some sh!t like, "Hey, you up for a drink this week? I'm free Wed or Thurs."

Anyway...i wouldn't worry about the non-response. There was nothing to respond to. Try her again for a date IN A FEW DAYS....and then you'll know what's up.

 

[handle]

I would just wait for her response.


These days I usually end up texting something really short like "Hey, I had a good time" about 24-48 hrs after. I used to not bother with even getting in touch but a lot of girls can't seem to tell that I like them (hint: if I fvcked you or made out with you, I like you), so now I do a really brief follow-up.

 

[JBB84]

She ended up getting back to me a few hours after I posted this in a really positive way, saying she had a great time and wants to hang out again and specified the night...so its on. What I learned from this: PATIENCE.