How to follow up the first make-out session with a new girl?

[Mister101]

How to apply the DJ Theories in this case?

Hi Guys,

so far so good (maybe...) Yesterday, on my third date with the girl from my previous thread (she cooked dinner for us at her place) we escalated to heavy french kissing.

When I left later at night, we did not yet set a time for a new date, as I didn't have my PDA with me and she said that college would keep her quite busy for the next few weeks. Although that certainly is the truth, I am slightly suspecting her IL to drop. Maybe just paranoia on my side, though...

So, what are your techniques for keeping a girl's interest in yourself high, once the situation has risen a few levels from your first date?

Here comes a quote from Michael Pilinski's "Without Embarrassment" on what to do after the first passionate kiss:

Follow up quickly the next day to keep the momentum headed towards the bedroom. Call her no more than two days later (preferably the next day) and set up another get together. No acting coy and calmly disinterested now... you don't want her to cool off. You only want to allow her enough time to think about the incipient new relationship the two of you are growing, and for her to build you up in her mind for about a day or so.

One unfocused afternoon of daydreaming at work should do the trick. She will literally hypnotize herself into your sexual influence. Remember what I said before... we fall in love while off on our own. The psychological state of "being in love" is molded in the crucible an internal, solitary process that happens when we're off by ourselves imagining and obsessing about the person who's been creating these feelings in us.

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Then you move in and pick up the seduction again in the real world -- predicating your next actions carefully on her starry-eyed, more captivated, point of view.

Once you've gotten past the first kiss, the ball is solidly in her court -- and whether or not the two of you will be having sex shortly is strictly her call now. She understands that she will either be offering you the opportunity very soon, or she will be calling the whole thing off.

What's your opinion?

Mister101

 

[golf299]

good question. free bump.

 

[Mister101]

Yeah, that's what I thought, too

 

[xblitz44x]

It sounds like you're doing just fine. Relax. Just because she's warning you that she's going to be busy for the next few weeks, doesn't mean that all of a sudden she doesn't want to date you anymore. Besides, she said this after she just got done jamming her tongue down your throat. Take it day by day and have patience.

Don't switch anything up. That's a huge problem with this site. We assume (for no good reason at all) that a girl's "interest level" is going to drop if we don't *do* something or implement a tactic. What happens is, we change our behavior out of the clear blue and now the girl thinks our 'interest level' is dropping, or something is wrong, or we just stop being ourselves and come across as unnatural. So now we fvck up the lines of communication and build upon a crappy foundation. Stay in it and do what you've been doing. It sounds like it's going great so far.

 

[Mister101]

Thanks man, that was kinda what I needed.

Anyway, she called me today (which she hasn't done before...) and I reassured her that as long as we both want to do this, we can work out the situation in a way that suits everybody. I'm quite busy with college and work, too. You can't study all day long, and after you're done it might be nice to have someone to relax with.

We set up a new date for Monday. I'm taking her out to eat, since she already cooked for me. I hope to clear up the situation a little bit then.

I'll keep you posted.

Mister101