How To Flip It On Her??

[lavender]

Ive been having trouble closing whenever i meet a girl.im still a bit of a rookie at this pickup thing.ive recently gotten over my fear of approaching and i still feel a little bit anxious when trying to strike up conversation. I try overshadowing it by appearing confident and sneak in a joke to make her laugh here and there.but with most of the girls i try to approach.whenever i ask for there number,they tell me to give them mine instead.In the back of my head i know theyre trying to dismiss me to leave them alone and im never gonna hear from them.one girl we actually wen t back in forth for ten minutes about who should give whos information first until i just gave up and walked away.

basically i need to know what am i doing wrong here?how come these girls are trying to avoid giving me their numbers and how do i get around it???

 

[SharinganUser]

You need to be more of a challenge to them. When you are talking with them you should disagree with them on something, and if you have more time you can even escalate it into a full blown argument. Then you can offer them a release like a hug or something.

 

[Iceberg]

Are your conversations going down a fun path? I can't really imagine what your conversations are like with this girls that would result in a rejection of a number. Hell, if anything, they'd give you the number and just ignore your call if they really didnt like you.

There's something going wrong with your conversation and your request for the number. If I'm talking to a girl at a bar, somewhere in the conversation I might say,
"Where are you from?"
"Oh that's near (X bar). You ever been to (Y bar)?"
"They have an awesome happy hour. I'll show you it. What's your number?"

I think the way I approach it is, I'm just offering the girl a fun time. It's not like I'm trying to sweep her off her feet or play any PUA mind tricks. It's like, "Hey if you like fun stuff, you'll like hanging out with me."

I'm wondering if you're saying something too serious or corny when you do your number request. Maybe you have some examples of conversations you've had.

 

[No Girls 4 U]

Try this trick, it works:

U: "Hey, do you have email, facebook or twitter?"
Her: "Of course I do!"
U: "Great - hey, text me with your email/facebook/twitter info so I can hit u up later."
Her: "Oh, okay..."

So she texts you the info. And what happens when she texts you? That's right - YOU'VE GOT THE NUMBER.

I know, it sounds stupid. But I've seen this work SO many times. Why does it work? It's a disconnect - you're not DIRECTLY asking for the number, so their brain doesn't get that by texting you the info, they're also sending you their digits. Try it!

- Harry Wilmington
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