How to find out if she likes you or REALLY likes you.

[Ancient]

Hi @ll.

This is a bit longer and comlicated post so thxl to everyone who is making the effort of reading / understnading what this frustrated boy has got for problems.

First of all to get it straight i am probably the most less DJ person you will ever encounter.
I am 18 years old come originally come from austria and am currently doing my A levels in the UK possibly even planning to study here.
Anyway i am almost 19 years old now and have never had a real gf in this time . (Yes i am sad i know). However i am pretty sure i am NOT gay and the main reason i have never had a relationship because i coul not be bothered to care about things like that i prefered and still do to spend lots of time in front of the computer. I have read this article on DJ and was very surprised how exactly the description fitted me http://www.thottbot.com/?i=52839. I have had many female friends though in the past but we always were just friends and i never really wanted more and i assume neither do they.
Anyhow when i came to school in the UK i met this really gorgeous an intelligent girl and i knew there was something special about her right from the start. As it is now we are pretty good friends however i have the feeling of experiencing something like love for the very first time with her and i really can not cope with it. I know she likes me to but i do not know if she likes me as much as i like her. We do loads of stuff together even outside school and really know very much about each other. On wednesday she is going to accompany me to london for 2 days (just us 2) and we are going to look at a few universities and i would really like to use this time to get closer to her if possible. But i really do not want to do this if she isnt comfortable with it cause the last thing i want is to lose her friendship. She often lies on me in the common room and she likes to hug me @ rnadom intervalls but i am really not sure what to make of it. If it couk develop in a love relationship i would be grateful but there is no point in forcing the issue if she does not feel as i fell for her.
Well anyway thx 2 all who maged to read this far and even more thx if you are even considering to give me any advice.

Regards Ancient.

PS: Please no comments telling me how sad I am or to get a life because I already know I am pretty sad when it comes to this topic and I am currently trying to get a life hence this post.

 

[Monkey D. Luffy]

I have an even sadder life. I've never kissed a girl, hugged a girl, or even held a girl's hand. I'm 18 years old. All throughout HS I would say I was rejected by at least 450 girls, and the count is climbing. I was maniacally depressed and wanted to kill myself all throughout 10th grade, the only thing that kept me from doing it was my love for anime. Add on to this my multiple personality and thought disorders, I was thinking about just giving up and becoming an asexual Buddha, but then I found this site and I'm going to try some of these techniques because I'm sick of whacking off every night and staring into the bottomless void of my shower. I need to get some inside of some sperm purses...soon.

Thanks sosuave.net

 

[Skilla_Staz]

Sperm purses? Never heard that name for a p*ssy.

 

[Bvbidd]

I have an even sadder life. I've never kissed a girl, hugged a girl, or even held a girl's hand. I'm 18 years old. All throughout HS I would say I was rejected by at least 450 girls, and the count is climbing. I was maniacally depressed and wanted to kill myself all throughout 10th grade, the only thing that kept me from doing it was my love for anime. Add on to this my multiple personality and thought disorders, I was thinking about just giving up and becoming an asexual Buddha, but then I found this site and I'm going to try some of these techniques because I'm sick of whacking off every night and staring into the bottomless void of my shower. I need to get some inside of some sperm purses...soon.

Thanks sosuave.net

HAHAHAHAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHAAAAAAAAAA

:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:



Rejected by at least 450 girls? WTF?

:crackup:

 

[Ancient]

Yeah this site really does seem to be pretty useful especially the stuff on building confidence.
My main problem is that i am personally really not to interested in being everyones best friend in the past ihave not cared that much about most people i always have had the fe but very good friends and I generally get on with most ppl quite well but there are only a few people who i actually want to be friends with.I also find it extremely hard to do "smalltalk" just talking about "unimportant" things which does not exactly make life easier.
But all in all i am quite happy with my life only my love life just plain sux / is nonexistent and i REALLY like this one girl.

Well anyway i better not dwell i wish you the very bust of luck @ Monkey unfortunatly i can not really help you so we just got to wait til the REAL DJ's show up and tell us what to do.

@all
As explained in my first english is not my first language so please let me know if there is something in my posts you dont understand.


Regards Ancient.

 

[Skilla_Staz]

I will put money on the fact that you have yet to read the bible, and if you have, you have FAILED to even ATTEMPT anything that is recommended there. Am I correct?

 

[Mr_rogers]

I will put money on the fact that you have yet to read the bible, and if you have, you have FAILED to even ATTEMPT anything that is recommended there. Am I correct?

lol, beat me to it.

 

[redbullfbu]

Omg The Bible

 

[Skilla_Staz]

Yes. The Bible. It's a shame how many guys ask questions that are answered in the bible. It's as if they would prefer people to ridicule them, rather than read an article.

 

[shydude]

I have an even sadder life. I've never kissed a girl, hugged a girl, or even held a girl's hand. I'm 18 years old. All throughout HS I would say I was rejected by at least 450 girls, and the count is climbing. I was maniacally depressed and wanted to kill myself all throughout 10th grade, the only thing that kept me from doing it was my love for anime. Add on to this my multiple personality and thought disorders, I was thinking about just giving up and becoming an asexual Buddha, but then I found this site and I'm going to try some of these techniques because I'm sick of whacking off every night and staring into the bottomless void of my shower. I need to get some inside of some sperm purses...soon.

Thanks sosuave.net

Dreamx, is that you???

 

[Spike_the_Dragon]

Guys, guys, guys...

You might as well be picking the pedals off of a flower asking, "She loves me, she loves me not". No offence, but you are pathetic. Even if she does like you, she won't for long with an attitude like this.

I really don't have time to go into this... Please read everying in the DJ Bible, then get off your a$$ and actually apply the methods in the real world.

I know you don't want to hear this, but I think you need to hear it. Now go read the freaking DJ Bible!

 

[i am me]

I have an even sadder life. I've never kissed a girl, hugged a girl, or even held a girl's hand. I'm 18 years old. All throughout HS I would say I was rejected by at least 450 girls, and the count is climbing. I was maniacally depressed and wanted to kill myself all throughout 10th grade, the only thing that kept me from doing it was my love for anime. Add on to this my multiple personality and thought disorders, I was thinking about just giving up and becoming an asexual Buddha, but then I found this site and I'm going to try some of these techniques because I'm sick of whacking off every night and staring into the bottomless void of my shower. I need to get some inside of some sperm purses...soon.

Thanks sosuave.net

hahahah damn

 

[Contender]

Ancient, you never know until you try. Either you can face a potential rejection, therefore dispelling the gnawing doubt; or you can actually succeed.

Regardless of the outcome, you'll be glad you tried. Don't wait; talk to her. Or, better yet... just ACT on your feelings. If the moment is right... try to kiss her.

The simple route is to just ask her out.

The basic trick to having and maintaining a healthy relationship is by being confident. That's it.

Look, you know for a fact that she likes you. A random friend would not treat you the same way she does. And, in all honesty, she probably doesn't feel the same way about you, as you feel about her. She's your first crush, but I'm sure she had other guys.

You are most likely attached; control it, and you will grow on her. Women like the guy over time. Guys like women over a few minutes.

Over time, women like us guys more; and over time, we lose interest in women. That's how it generally works.

In conclusion: Just do it. No matter how nervous you are, DO IT. I will not lie to you... it's hard; but it's hard to get what you want. If she is worth it to you, you'll try.

If not, then don't even bother.