How to f*** better?

[BPH]

This is not a troll post.

Yesterday I turned 18 and I wanted to have birthday sex, so I did. I had only had sex twice prior with 2 other girls. So I masturbated before I had sex with this girl so I would be able to last longer. It was pretty unsatisfying, I lasted a good 20 minutes or so but when I came it wasn't all that great.

Now is sex just a little overrated or am I doing it wrong? Maybe my expectations are too high from the way I've seen sex in pornos but this last sex wasn't all that satisfying.

What's wrong here?

 

[Audiophile]

We're both pretty young, so I can't really speak for what "great sex" truly is, but I've had some pretty good times. Last year I found an ebook called "The Sex God Method" - helped me tremendously. The best thing I found is that on top of that, find a girl who you can hook up with regularly, and ASK her what you could do better to improve. As an example, when I was with my ex for a few months, I was TERRIBLE at going down on a girl, so I asked her how I should improve. By the end of it all (dated her for 8 months), I could make her *** in a minute using just my tongue, practice really makes perfect.

Anyway, out of all the sex I've had, the best one was always with a girl that I actually liked. Sexual intimacy and the act of sex is completely different, and can make it astronomically better if you have feelings for who you're hooking up with. even if you don't, having a girl on the regular is much better because you get more comfortable with each other, so you understand what she likes and you're not holding anything back. I find that the first time I hook up with a girl isn't my best, just because I'm not 100% on what she's into etc...

Sex in pornos isn't realistic in the slightest, and I would suggest trying to cut down on any porn viewing due to it giving you a skewed sense of sexuality. I've tried to cut out porn and masturbation as much as I could, and damn are the results staggering. You get way more aggressive, and you can feel your sexual energy just oozing out of your body, it's a pretty good feeling.

My $0.02

 

[don't]

only perfect practice leads to perfect execution. Practice at the wrong thing, or the wrong way, and you get worse, not better.

 

[Dr. Feelgood]

aight so lemme give you some advice from an older dude.

you wanna have good sex. like really good sex. you gotta understand how to make it good for the chick.

bro. tell me wtf is sexier? you got 2 chicks. your bangin both of them. one is crazy in to it. the other isnt. you did the same stuff with each. which sex was better

i have not had a lot of girls i banged but i have had lots of sex. just with the same chicks. dude. theres this movie out called don juan marco or something like that about this don juan guy. this dude is so smooth its like a knife thru hot butter.

when he talks with a chick its like he falls in love with her for just a litttleeee bit. hes got balsy control over his emotionality. each chick is special to him.

if you wanna get better in bed learn how to make it about the chick. learn how to get her so ready for action that shes beggin for it. get that sex god book or whatever. listen to the way the chick is breathin how shes moaning and all that. if your doing it right shell be making some noise. work with it. make it louder and better.

and btw dude its easier to get sex when you are good at sex.

 

[Upside]

You get way more aggressive, and you can feel your sexual energy just oozing out of your body, it's a pretty good feeling.

It's only a good feeling when you fvck on the regular, otherwise it's frustrating to have all the sexual energy without an outlet to spend it on. A lot of guys like to jack it, but I prefer to work out or read.

 

[loveorlust]

This is not a troll post.

Yesterday I turned 18 and I wanted to have birthday sex, so I did. I had only had sex twice prior with 2 other girls. So I masturbated before I had sex with this girl so I would be able to last longer. It was pretty unsatisfying, I lasted a good 20 minutes or so but when I came it wasn't all that great.

Now is sex just a little overrated or am I doing it wrong? Maybe my expectations are too high from the way I've seen sex in pornos but this last sex wasn't all that satisfying.

What's wrong here?

No offense but maybe you're gay

 

[BPH]

No offense but maybe you're gay

I had honestly been wondering this for a little. I would sometimes find myself looking at an attractive guy to see what my competition is. Although this habit is a little queer I don't find myself being sexually attracted to other guys, only respecting the good looks of some. I have had guys that were sexually attracted to me that I had to turn down.

As for women and sex here's what I find. I get really horny with anticipation. I'm horny as I'm taking off a girl's clothes and sometimes at the thoughts of what I'm about to do to them. But compared to how I perceive sex, the reality isn't as much fun as I want it to be. It just tneds to be thrusting from different positions.

@Audiophile: I have a girl I can probably do that with. She's Asian and I'm not crazy into Asians but she's the hottest one in my school so I could probably make do.

@Dr. Feelgood: Getting laid is easy now. I just want to get better at actually having sex. Any idea where this Sex God Method is?

 

[Audiophile]

BPH, check the most popular torrent site for it, that's where I found it.

 

[Thatfeel21]

You can read all the books you want and watch all the videos you see, but the ONLY way to get better at sex is to.....have sex! That goes for any skill; reading about it or watching someone perform it only does so good. Youre 18, far from settling down and far from your sexual prime. Dont sweat it.

 

[hardliquor]

You need to pinpoint what was so unsatisfying about your birthday sex.
The girl's reactions? The sensations? Your emotions?

Until you know that, it will be difficult to fix it.

 

[BPH]

You need to pinpoint what was so unsatisfying about your birthday sex.
The girl's reactions? The sensations? Your emotions?

Until you know that, it will be difficult to fix it.

I think it was mainly a sensational problem. This might be a result of me masturbating beforehand.

The other times I've had sex the sex wasn't all that (unrealistic expectations due to porn) but the orgasm at the end was pretty good. This one was not. I barely came when I finished.

 

[hardliquor]

I hear you. Sex for me was disappointing at first to (do to sensation), but then it got better. I remember losing my virginity, thinking - this is all there is to it? WTF?

Does changing the girl do anything for you?

 

[hardliquor]

Also, just wanted to ask if you had any birthday drinks before hand? That tends to interfere with sensation a lot.

 

[DJ Bax]

Ive also had some trouble in the bedroom lately and want to be able to just f**k the s*** out of my girl. I found the ebook on frostwire and im readin it right now :cheer:

 

[BPH]

Also, just wanted to ask if you had any birthday drinks before hand? That tends to interfere with sensation a lot.

It was at my house and we both knew what we were gonna do. No drinks were necessary.

 

[ilikecharlene]

Being good in bed is about communication.

society seems to believe there is one universal "good in bed" standard, but this can never be, as everybody has different sexual tastes. In essence, one who is good in bed hits the spots of their partner. it's about finding out what she likes and how she likes to be ****ed. once you figure that out, then she's satisfied and you are good in bed.

 

[djokovic77]

I always picture Im in a porn (srs) Like Brazzers sh*t

 

[Krueg]

Sex is overrated and hyped up when your young. My first two times werent my greatist either. Its new to you and you just kinda learn as you go. The more experience you get the better it will be.

 

[Gro0ver]

1. Physical chemistry...some people just fit together better

2. Practice...makes perfect

3. Condoms...necessary until you're official with the girl then get her on the pill ASAP. Make sure you both get tested first as well. You could do this with a F buddy but you're taking a big risk as she's free to screw other people

4. Girl...if she's horny and loving it then you will be too :woo:

Honestly, I didn't get very good sex until i got into my first LTR, then it just got better and better and better. So just forget about it for now, it will come with time.

 

[BPH]

1. Physical chemistry...some people just fit together better

2. Practice...makes perfect

3. Condoms...necessary until you're official with the girl then get her on the pill ASAP. Make sure you both get tested first as well. You could do this with a F buddy but you're taking a big risk as she's free to screw other people

4. Girl...if she's horny and loving it then you will be too :woo:

Honestly, I didn't get very good sex until i got into my first LTR, then it just got better and better and better. So just forget about it for now, it will come with time.

One of the best replies so far. Thanks man. But I am interested in reading a little out of the Sex God Method if anybody could find that? I remember Audiophile said it's on a torrent site.