Furyguy
Senior Don Juan
I met an amazing girl earlier this week and we started dating. I spent the night with her last night, as well as most of today. We are getting very serious, very fast, which I am fine with because I got nothing else going on right now and she's an absolute pleasure to be around.
Problem is I am planning on moving to the other side of the country in three months. I need to tell her this soon, before things become even more serious between us. If I don't, I know I will feel like a complete piece of sh*t and not be able to look myself in the mirror, because I feel like keeping something like that from a person you are getting into a serious relationship with is simply not right.
It's not a balls problem for me, but I'm not always the most tactful type and I suck at understanding female psychology. I really want to avoid scaring her away before things get off the ground between us. I want to spend the next three months with her and take it from there. If things are going fantastic between us, she may very well be my reason for deciding to stay in this city longer than I had originally planned. I am willing to postpone my plans to spend more time with someone amazing, but not cancel them forever and not for someone who isn't extraordinary.
I don't really know how to tell her, but I'm worried she'll want to just end things now to protect herself from getting seriously hurt if she falls in love and I walk out on her. Which has happened to her before. And, realistically, could happen with me as well.
My standpoint is that I just want to squeeze as much enjoyment out of life as possible, for as long as possible, which in this case includes being with her until I leave. I know my months left in this city will be that much better with her.
What I DON'T want is for it to come across as an ultimatum: "If you don't make me happy enough, if things aren't good enough with you, if I don't think we have a future, then I will move away." It's just a decision I hope to put off until I need to make it based on circumstances at the time.
This is very long-winded and I thank anyone for who took the time to read the whole thing, as well as anyone who offers advice or insight. Just the act of sitting down and writing this all out has helped me immensely as it is.
Problem is I am planning on moving to the other side of the country in three months. I need to tell her this soon, before things become even more serious between us. If I don't, I know I will feel like a complete piece of sh*t and not be able to look myself in the mirror, because I feel like keeping something like that from a person you are getting into a serious relationship with is simply not right.
It's not a balls problem for me, but I'm not always the most tactful type and I suck at understanding female psychology. I really want to avoid scaring her away before things get off the ground between us. I want to spend the next three months with her and take it from there. If things are going fantastic between us, she may very well be my reason for deciding to stay in this city longer than I had originally planned. I am willing to postpone my plans to spend more time with someone amazing, but not cancel them forever and not for someone who isn't extraordinary.
I don't really know how to tell her, but I'm worried she'll want to just end things now to protect herself from getting seriously hurt if she falls in love and I walk out on her. Which has happened to her before. And, realistically, could happen with me as well.
My standpoint is that I just want to squeeze as much enjoyment out of life as possible, for as long as possible, which in this case includes being with her until I leave. I know my months left in this city will be that much better with her.
What I DON'T want is for it to come across as an ultimatum: "If you don't make me happy enough, if things aren't good enough with you, if I don't think we have a future, then I will move away." It's just a decision I hope to put off until I need to make it based on circumstances at the time.
This is very long-winded and I thank anyone for who took the time to read the whole thing, as well as anyone who offers advice or insight. Just the act of sitting down and writing this all out has helped me immensely as it is.