Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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How to expand my social circle. UK lads?

R1ch4rd

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I've got about 6 best friends. I know a good amount of girls. But I really want branch out meet people in new areas, adventure a bit more. I don't know any fit girls at all. I'm stumped how to do this, I really am.
I went to a all boys secondary school, I'm going to a mixed sixth form in september(but that's not a different area, but can meet new people there)

I want to start spreading out my social circle, I have facebook, but if you talk to guys or girls they are just going to be like "who are you" i can't see no amount of charm is going to do much. In the UK, unless they meet you in person, and/or know you for a while they just won't talk to you. You have your emos, grundgers, chavs etc. I'm just me i dress chavy sometimes then normal kinda of stylish.
I would like guys from the UK prefabley my age to give me some advice, because i do believe it's different here.

I'm 16 1/2, just finishing my GCSEs
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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CaptainJ

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I'm 17 and British, and what I can tell you is that when you move to a mixed school, your social life will expand hugely, provided that you actually try and socialise and make friends wit the new people you meet. Not only will you have your old out of school friends to kick it with, but you will also gain a whole load of new friends. (Out of school friends gives you a lot of social proof, people become interested when you mention you are going out with friends out of school).

People in the school will become interested in who these newcomers are, and you essentially have a clean slate to do anything with. I suggest you find the popular group asap and begin hanging with them, provided you are confident and bold enough to fulfill their social checklist. Be funny, tease girls you don't know, socialise and meet a lot of people and avoid the loser crews and inbetweeners and you will fulfill their checklists. Also girls will be very interested in a new boy, especially if you are good looking, so get straight to work getting friendly with the hot popular girls, elevate your social proof. Dominate them, flirt with them and tease them to assume your social superiority and become the new alpha male of the school. You will get a lot of attention *****s also looking for fresh meat, bored of the dried up old AFCs they have used. Provided you can sense and avoid falling to their attention seeking ways, they can hugely elevate your social proof as they try to get your attention.

So basically, as soon as you walk into the school, assume superiority, tackle the popular crews and socialise. Be friendly, interesting, funny, ****y and tease the hot girls. Soon you'll be accepted into a popular social group. Also make sure to keep your links to your out of school friends to maintain a strong income of social proof.
 

R1ch4rd

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Thanks man helped alot!. Their be a couple ones trying to be alpha. And there's quite a alot of BOYS from my secondary school going there and most of my current friends, so it won't be clean start as wanted, and that's what i really want. But then i could go to a college and be much cleaner slate, but it's do you choose Academic over Social points?
yes i am a good looking guy luckierly enough :). The school is having a bowling day to introduct new people at the sixth form but i didnt pay the money in time. I was wondering if i should turn up at the bowling alley or try and get a space .
 
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