"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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How to exclude the friend?

Ciel

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I recently got some Canadian chick's number, she's here in London til Sunday before she goes back home.

I text her(would have called but lol foreign rates) arranging to meet on Sunday, and she said "my friend may come along, but that sounds great :)"

How do I avoid this?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mr Wright

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Maybe just be honest and say you were hoping it was just going to be the two of you. Call it right out!
 

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You: "Let's go out. "
Her: "my friend may come along, but that sounds great :)"
You: "Screw your friend, let's make it a date - just you & me. "

That can go either of two ways.
I heavily advocate thinking of yourself as the great catch and because of such thinking, becoming the great catch.

In which case, it would go like this.

Her: "ooooooo i like that better!! lets do it hunny!! cant waittt!!! :D eeeee"

However, being realistic, there's always the (minute) possibility of her replying like this.

Her: "lol no"

In which case, you find out she doesn't respect or likeyou in that way and get the all-clear green light to move on to bigger and better things.
Problem solved.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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or you can find a male friend of your to play defense while you isolate and go on the offense.

im pretty sure you have a few boys who are willing to take it for the team.
 

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not so sure

Maybe she doesn't feel comfortable being that she is only their on vacation. She could possibly be wanting to go on the date, just taking a safety precaution. Maybe bring a long a friend so she is able to focus her attention towards you and not her friend.
 

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Dudes, WTF, she's giving him an option for social proof. If she's dating that friend of her it wouldn't work out anyhow. Cause if she's intrested she wouldn't bring her boyfriend. If she isen't you can become friends with the guy and he might become the best social proof you'll have to win this girl over.

If he likes you it will improve your chances with her and you'll have a new friend...

People need to embrace the chance of meeting new people! Who knows maybe the friend is female, maybe it's the coolest guy you'll ever meet, maybe it's your next wingman.
If he's a douchebag you'll know her taste of friends doesn't mix with yours so that's a sign you and her might not click. Through her friend she'll get to know you better and you'll get to know her better. She's giving you the best option you have and you're already coming of as insecure... Confidence my friend, chicks love it.

Text her back: "Great! Let's meet up at XYZ". Jealous guys never win and women smell unconfident men. She probebly wants an opinion on you by her friend, so remember, the day of the date, it's all about the friend, not her... He's the social proof, he's selling the tickets to the game (aka her p-ssy).
If you're the coolest guy he's ever met without embarrassing yourself, you probebly won't have to do anything... Show them around town and make sure both of them have a good time, especially the friend.



Excluding the friend :rolleyes: what were you thinking
 

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Credos, why do you assume this friend is a male? Also, the friend is on vacation too.

Understand I'm not being jealous, I'm just taking into consideration the fact that I've only got one date to score a lay here, so why am I gonna waste it on a friend?
 

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It's like saying no to the ticket vendor at a festival, cause you're an artist... Are you that good in game that you can score her in one night without the friend? (Cause saying to her that her friend shouldn't come might work against you. I'm not saying it alwayse will, it just could)

It doesn't matter sh*t if the friend is male or not, it's still the ticketvendor. One date or more it makes no difference... Not enough time/no patience isen't written in my book. Planting the seed my friend, that's what you're doing.

Anyhow, it's difficult to judge the situation on the outside with so little information. You'll have to decide on your own how you handle the situation :yes:, so good luck mate!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just to let you know, I followed with what MrJazz said and just didn't get a reply back.

Although to be honest, I'm okay with this. I couldn't be bothered entertaining two, and now it means I get to catch a nap. :p Getting laid wasn't that important.
 

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It never is, Ciel. Surely enough though, there will be a voice in the back of her head saying "OMG he likes me! I can't believe he spoke to me like that!". If you NC long enough, she'll come crawling back. If she doesn't, get another nap. Chicks come and go. On to bigger and better things!
 

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Yeh, she's probably gone home to Canada now. Either way, I don't wanna be any kind of PUA tbh.

Yes, sex is nice, but I don't wanna change anything to get it.
 
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