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How to escape Friend-Zone

Bawb14

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Hey guys. I'm really into this one younger girl right now, I guess actually that's the problem, that i'm into ONE girl... but anyway; we're good friends with a lot of kino going on, we cuddle and stuff when its cold etc etc, but it's all very friend-zoney. I'm pretty positive this is hopeless and pointless, and I should not waste my time on this, but I do want to try. Can anyone help me out with getting out of this friendzone? How can I express the fact that i'm a guy with a DicC instead of just a friend.

Thanks BUUUDS:trouble:
 

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Bawb14 said:
Hey guys. I'm really into this one younger girl right now, I guess actually that's the problem, that i'm into ONE girl... but anyway; we're good friends with a lot of kino going on, we cuddle and stuff when its cold etc etc, but it's all very friend-zoney. I'm pretty positive this is hopeless and pointless, and I should not waste my time on this, but I do want to try. Can anyone help me out with getting out of this friendzone? How can I express the fact that i'm a guy with a DicC instead of just a friend.

Thanks BUUUDS:trouble:

next time check the stickies, there is a post pertaining to this excact question

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=16631
 

Smack

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Daddy The Pimp said:
The thing is you cannot escape it because in her reality you're just a friend. And she doesn't expect anything sexual from you.
Of course you can escape the friend zone, but since the friend zone isn't a favourable place to be in it's best to just not get trapped in there in the first place.
 

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Smack said:
Of course you can escape the friend zone, but since the friend zone isn't a favourable place to be in it's best to just not get trapped in there in the first place.
Man , if we're talking about real typical FRIEND ZONE , where the girls feel nothing more about you except love for a sister , its almost impossible to escape.

We're not talking here about the girl that have always had sexual fantasies with you . We're talking about girl that you liked so much , you met her and she putted you into her friend zone . This means she no longer has any sexual interest about you and she looks you as a girl friend. As an emotional tampon.

If she thinks of you that way , anything that you do , any KINO , flirty method , any technique applied in her will be framed as a friendly move.And if you do any kind of escalation will freak her out. So , once you get in there , you're fvcked up.

The best thing is to keep flirty frame , tell her that SHE'S NOT YOUR FRIEND and escalating all the time and kinoing hardcore will keep you outside of that trap.
 

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I'm looking for a little help myself. I like this girl and i asked her out. She replies by saying she likes me but isn't into the whole dating scene. Wtf does that mean? Does that mean that she is nicely trying to say she isn't attracted to me physically but thinks I'm a nice guy. Thats what I was getting out of that. What should i do to make this girl realize I want to be more than friends or should i avoid contact and make her intiate things?
 

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It seems that the most common answer to the friend zone issue is to cut contact with the girl. Well, doesn't this really have the potential to backfire? Sure, it could spark some interest, but it seems more likely to just have her forget about you. I mean, if she wasn't interested at you at first, what makes you think she'll be interested when you stop talking to her, you know? How are you guys going about this to make sure that doesn't happen?
 

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WCF said:
It seems that the most common answer to the friend zone issue is to cut contact with the girl. Well, doesn't this really have the potential to backfire? Sure, it could spark some interest, but it seems more likely to just have her forget about you. I mean, if she wasn't interested at you at first, what makes you think she'll be interested when you stop talking to her, you know? How are you guys going about this to make sure that doesn't happen?
You see the part of your post I put in bold? That's the whole point. That's what you want. You want her to forget about you. If you cut contact,then when you start talking to her again she doesn't remember you,THAT'S GOOD!!! Because if she put the "you" she oringinally met in the friendzone and that guy is gone,then you indeed have a second chance to make a first impression. All the mistakes and errors you made that put you in the friendzone in the beginning,now you have a second chance with the girl to get it right this time.

Only now with this new opportunity,you have to avoid what you did wrong the first time. Otherwise,you'll get LJBF'ed again.

That's the point of no contact,to make her forget about you. Because if she doesn't,it's over with. You have no chance. Now personally,I do not believe there is a way out of the friendzone. It takes too much work,and too much time to get out of it. Not only that,but you have to do all over this extra work just to get back to square one. All this no contact work plus the other things you have to do are just to get you to the beginning. After all that,then you have to start to "game" her while avoiding all the normal pitfalls of friendzone(again),asd,buyer's remorse,dhvs,and other stuff.

Forget that. I'd rather just meet someone new and start from there.
 
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