How to end a date smoothly?

[wysiwyg6000]

I have a coffee/drink date tomorrow night from a girl from the web, this is like my 3rd or 4th one...problem is, I never really felt like I ended the previous ones too well, like it was kind of abrupt and ****ty. What are some ways you end a first date like that? I dont want to say "It's late and I must be going" at 8:30 because it looks incredibly stupid. Any suggestions?

 

[Sweetcheeks]

Just tell them you have another appointment

My cousin was actually able to have 3 dates on the same day with different women he met on the internet by doing this.

Just say that you have to meet a friend somewhere else at 9 or so. This is a perfectly reasonable time to meet up with someone for a social outing.

You might even try being bold and let her know that you have another date later on. That way, she will perceive that you have some social value to other women, and that you are not desperate for HER attention on particular.

 

[JJMcLure]

Don't suggest you have a date with someone else later. It's weak. It's artificially trying to demonstrate value. It comes off as unnatural as it sounds. Most chicks would be offended.

You are concerned with ending the date? How about being concerned with making her INTEREST LEVEL so high during the date that she doesn't want it to end? How about taking her home and fvcking her instead of ending it? Sounds impossible? You're only limited by the parameters you set yourself.

If you go through this thing in the mindset of "I'm going to end this in half an hour" it will likely come across as you wanting to get out of there, and she'll probably assume she is boring you.

The bottom line is, sure don't let a "date" drag on and on - keep it fun and keep her wanting more rather than getting bored. BUT, if it's going well, keep escalating and take things as far as you can.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I don't believe what I'm hearing. Guys, it's just an ending to a date. No stories or excuses are necessary. Just say that you either enjoyed yourself or not (depending on how well the date went) say goodbye and either let her know that you may (or may not) want to get together again.

 

[nishbuk]

Originally posted by Francisco d'Anconia
I don't believe what I'm hearing. Guys, it's just an ending to a date. No stories or excuses are necessary. Just say that you either enjoyed yourself or not (depending on how well the date went) say goodbye and either let her know that you may (or may not) want to get together again.

'nough said. How to end a date? It doesn't really matter AT ALL. What does matter is how the date itself went. I thought this would have been pretty self-evident.

 

[shaken_not_stirred]

"You are concerned with ending the date? How about being concerned with making her INTEREST LEVEL so high during the date that she doesn't want it to end? How about taking her home and fvcking her instead of ending it? Sounds impossible? You're only limited by the parameters you set yourself"

dude, did you not read his post or something? HE's the one that wants to end the date. i could be stepping out on a limb or something, but if HE is the one that wants to end the date, i'm gonna guess that he is not really all that into the girl he's out with. nothing wrong with being picky. you don't have to shag every nasty ho that agrees to go out with you once you find out she's a crack addict. jeez. cut him some slack.

on the other hand, if you really aren't that into her, why even care how you end it. tell her you need to get going. you don't have to say why. if you are never going to see her again, who cares what she thinks.

 

[wysiwyg6000]

Originally posted by shaken_not_stirred
"You are concerned with ending the date? How about being concerned with making her INTEREST LEVEL so high during the date that she doesn't want it to end? How about taking her home and fvcking her instead of ending it? Sounds impossible? You're only limited by the parameters you set yourself"

dude, did you not read his post or something? HE's the one that wants to end the date. i could be stepping out on a limb or something, but if HE is the one that wants to end the date, i'm gonna guess that he is not really all that into the girl he's out with. nothing wrong with being picky. you don't have to shag every nasty ho that agrees to go out with you once you find out she's a crack addict. jeez. cut him some slack.

on the other hand, if you really aren't that into her, why even care how you end it. tell her you need to get going. you don't have to say why. if you are never going to see her again, who cares what she thinks.

well, it's for both situations (if I like or don't like her). If I like her, I don't want to drag it out. I want to leave her hanging a bit so she wants a second date. then there's also if things aren't going well and you want to bail.

 

[JJMcLure]

Originally posted by shaken_not_stirred
dude, did you not read his post or something? HE's the one that wants to end the date. i could be stepping out on a limb or something, but if HE is the one that wants to end the date, i'm gonna guess that he is not really all that into the girl he's out with. nothing wrong with being picky. you don't have to shag every nasty ho that agrees to go out with you once you find out she's a crack addict. jeez. cut him some slack.

New guy - yeah I read it.

When you have actually read most of the common knowledge around here and the community in general you will have an awareness that the first "coffee date" is often somewhat rigidly prescribed to last only 30 to 45 minutes and then rigidly prescribed to END.

As this is the perspective it appeared to me wysiwyg6000 was coming from, this is what I responded to. I hope the angle I provided was useful food for thought for you wysiwyg6000. Just remember what your goal is - presumably to get physical on some level with the chick (i.e. not specifically to have X number of dates with her).

So, shaken_not_stirred, until you have an awareness of the common knowledge, please refrain from making criticisms . You're post didn't really add anything, except for a criticism.