How to drop a plate?

[MOTU]

I have decided I am done with plate 1. I can tell she really likes me and it weighs on my conscience that I know for sure we don't have a future, so I want to cut her loose.

I was thinking of texting: plate 1, I enjoy your company but I don't see an "us" in the future. I don't think we should see each other any more.

Thoughts?

 

[MOTU]

Sam, yes I have been fvcking her at least once a week for about 2mos. I know texting seems sh!tty but I don't want any drama and we never talk on the phone. Maybe I should call her.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear MOTU,
Without any doubt,and I have moved on from many Plates,the best way is to engineer matters so it seems they get rid of you!

 

[Scormus]

beta behaviours

Dear MOTU,
Without any doubt,and I have moved on from many Plates,the best way is to engineer matters so it seems they get rid of you!

This might be a good time to try AFC beta behaviours and see how well they work to lower interest level.

A good exercise to remind us to stay alpha in our behaviours with women we do want to keep.

 

[Lexington]

There's no easy way to go about it if she's into you. Just make it quick and to the point. Something like, "I've really enjoyed our time together, but I don't see this going anywhere." Be available to talk on the phone for a week or so, but then fade away.

 

[pdx1138]

I've been there myself. I felt like a heel, but just ignored her texts completely.
After two weeks, never heard from again.

 

[MOTU]

Ok I texted:
"plate 1 I have enjoyed our time together but I have to be honest that I don't see us progressing together".

Her reaction wasn't too bad, but she did say it was a sh!tty thing to do via text. I guess she is right about the texting, but it sure was easier than a phone call or face to face.

What's funny is we never had the "what are we" talk at all, and we are both still on POF. So I was actually doing her a solid because I know she wants more and I know it will never happen.

Anyway, number and kiss closed a bar girl last night and gave my number to a chick I chatted up at the grocery. And I have a POF date tonight. The game goes on.

 

[David831]

Has anyone here ****ed underwater while scuba diving?

 

[RangerMIke]

Stop giving her what she wants from you and she will dump you. Pi$$ing in her bed.... OMG that is hilarious, but no doupt her interest level in you would drop like a rock if you can't control your bladder.

Anyway, if this is a realtionship where you are sleeping with her you have to break up like a man... face to face. Stay away from pluralistic reasoning things like "We don't work together.", "Our relationship just isn't working". Be very clear that your reasoning has everything to do with with YOUR needs and wants. Don't put any blame on her. It will help her move on.

Don't worry about her... she is going to be just fine. All women have beta orbiters they can run to for reassurance and comfort. And you are probibly not the only plate she is spinning.