She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
When I used to see freshmen with popped collars around campus, I would walk up to them, fold their collars down, smile and tap them on their shoulder. Some of them would give me the most frightened looks.Bluesteak said:Do NOT pop the collar on your polo shirt, people will call you a homo :crackup:
Whatever. Your insecurity in the clubs has nothing to do with this.San Jose California said:As I said I prefer unbuttoned so neither of those apply to me. Nice job deliberately making the long-sleeved picture a way better color in order to make the short-sleeved one look more dull, by the way. When I see that blue one I think of all the douchebags in clubs that wear long-sleeved, striped button-ups thinking they stand out when they don't even realize that everyone is wearing the same thing.
Look up the definitions of irony and "hypocracy" before you start talking, genius. Long-sleeve shirts are more versatile -- you can wear them when it's warm, or you can wear them when it's cold.I don't need to point out the irony here. Well, actually I do. I just did, because somehow you failed to realize the hypocracy in that sentence. Spoiler: just wear a short-sleeved instead of rolling up the sleeves, you dolt. Besides, they always slide back down and it gets annoying to keep having to do it over and over again.
I love people who don't admit that they have a horrible fashion sense, and are probably nerdy virgins. Who cares if it's buttoned or unbuttoned? All I'm saying is that they're more versatile and interesting than a boring short sleeved solid button up, no matter how they're worn.I love people who suck at arguing so much that they have to completely change around what the other person is saying in order to prove their point. I said I own a couple that look good on me, proof being that I had someone at a restaurant compliment me on it. I don't refuse to wear a shirt because it's Hawaiian; I wear what looks good on me. Shouldn't it be like that with everyone? Everyone seems to be aware of this stereotype that nerds wear short-sleeved button-ups, but I've never heard of it. Is this stereotype still true if he wears it unbuttoned?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.