You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
When I used to see freshmen with popped collars around campus, I would walk up to them, fold their collars down, smile and tap them on their shoulder. Some of them would give me the most frightened looks.Bluesteak said:Do NOT pop the collar on your polo shirt, people will call you a homo :crackup:
Whatever. Your insecurity in the clubs has nothing to do with this.San Jose California said:As I said I prefer unbuttoned so neither of those apply to me. Nice job deliberately making the long-sleeved picture a way better color in order to make the short-sleeved one look more dull, by the way. When I see that blue one I think of all the douchebags in clubs that wear long-sleeved, striped button-ups thinking they stand out when they don't even realize that everyone is wearing the same thing.
Look up the definitions of irony and "hypocracy" before you start talking, genius. Long-sleeve shirts are more versatile -- you can wear them when it's warm, or you can wear them when it's cold.I don't need to point out the irony here. Well, actually I do. I just did, because somehow you failed to realize the hypocracy in that sentence. Spoiler: just wear a short-sleeved instead of rolling up the sleeves, you dolt. Besides, they always slide back down and it gets annoying to keep having to do it over and over again.
I love people who don't admit that they have a horrible fashion sense, and are probably nerdy virgins. Who cares if it's buttoned or unbuttoned? All I'm saying is that they're more versatile and interesting than a boring short sleeved solid button up, no matter how they're worn.I love people who suck at arguing so much that they have to completely change around what the other person is saying in order to prove their point. I said I own a couple that look good on me, proof being that I had someone at a restaurant compliment me on it. I don't refuse to wear a shirt because it's Hawaiian; I wear what looks good on me. Shouldn't it be like that with everyone? Everyone seems to be aware of this stereotype that nerds wear short-sleeved button-ups, but I've never heard of it. Is this stereotype still true if he wears it unbuttoned?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.