"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How to do anything with these handicaps?

Aldo

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My goal is to obviously build attraction. We're both going to some thing in the future where something can happen, and then I have Prom after that (if I go with this girl). I want her to be attracted to me enough that we'll be able to do something at that future event.

My question is how to build this attraction if...

#1: We both have no car (and I'm not asking friends to third-wheel and drive us...they'd say no anyway)

#2: We barely see each other in school

It's pretty hard. I wish I had a car, but I can't afford one. So far, all I've done after getting her number is text her some short conversational bull. Nothing personal yet. I'm not going to text her for a while though. It's part of the whole "Give a little, get a little, then give more later and get more now" approach.

So yeah. I've got her number, we text, and I can talk to her for like a minute during school. Those are the only tools at my disposal.

Tips?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This is what Friday's and Saturday's are for!

All though movies suck as first dates Little Fockers and True Grit recently came out and it's pretty good and super easy to ask a girl out to a movie date or if you want use the term hang out.
 

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You seem like you've never been to this site before, but you've been a member for over a year, why is that?
How much of this stuff do you know?

Car is only a place you isolate, find another place. Logistics can't be that bad.
You barely see her? Then ask her out.

Here is the problem I see: You barely know this chick, yet you are attracted to her and focus only on her. This scarcity mentality rarely works.

Tell us how long it is before prom and other events. I'm assuming "something" is fvcking, if not, then don't wait untill the end of the night. The earlier, the better.

Focus on other chicks. Focus on becoming better, and gaining more confidence (this does not mean ignore chicks).

Read up on some good material. I still dont understand your lack of knowledge. I understand that you might not have dared to get experience and confidence yet, but this site has been at your disposal for a year.

I might answer you more later if necessary.
 

Jack Wealthy

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Handicaps?

I've been in this situation a million times. It really doesn't matter, start touching her lots and catch up after school. Really, theres nothing else, this is a normal scenario in HS.

Just DON'T ask her out.
 

NorwegianDJ

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Jack Wealthy said:
Just DON'T ask her out.
We're giving conflicting information, Jack. Why is that you shouldn't do something after school?

Of course you should actually get to know her a bit first, and spark some attraction.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Jack Wealthy

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Do something after school, but don't ask her out. Compare HS asking out the way its usually done, or even asking to the movies vs just taking them somewhere.
As in, no questions asked just pumping state with fun convo and lotsa kino, then go "hey, lets go..." take her hand and lead her to... Maccas:)
Over text, just tease her a lot, then transition to "Fcuk my parents just left me alone and said I can't go out." "Wanna be rebel with me gonna sneak to..." It creates a conspiracy.
 
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