"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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How To Destroy Approach Anxiety

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The most important thing that i learned from approaching girls is this is about u and not about them. U r doing this for urself to improve and not to get a good reaction from this one person. So the idea when u approach someone is that u do not care what this person thinks about u, if they don't reply who cares u gained courage and experience, if they reply u can escalate more and u gained courage and experience. So u do not lose, either way u come out of it with the most important thing experience and courage. numbers, dates don't make u a man, what makes u the man is asking them for the number, approaching the girl, making the moves. These r the things u should b focused on.

Everytime u approach remember why u r doing this, ur trying to improve, ur not trying to get her number ur not trying to **** her. U r trying to become the man who can get numbers who can sleep with girls or what ever other goal u have. There is so much difference.

AFC: I am going to try chat this girl up....

DJ: I am going to talk to this girl and try to improve my convosation skills with women.

Can u see the afc has put the focus on her, while the dj has put it on himself. The dj will probablly succeed with talking to this girl even, because the other one has made her the prize while the dj is making himself to b the prize, because he is making himself into a better man.

This can b put for any situation.

My goal is to ask her for her number not because i want it, but because i am scared to ask for it and it is constraining me.

My goal is to listen more and not to talk crap about myself.

My goal is to greet a girl with a slide in the set approach. (Wheeeeeee....."now ur turn!!!!!!")

If u Put the focus on improving urself rather than resuts u will never ever get AA.

Next time ur scared to approach a set and u do somehow get aa by not obeying this rule, remember the only reason u r going to approach this set is to get rid of ur fear and nothing else. There is no possible way u cud screw it up. So good luck guys and i hope u apply this i know it has helped me and made me improve greatly to what i want to get to.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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