How to demonstrate SV in limited situations?

[SHChamp]

There is one girl in one of my master classes that I find an HB9, appearance wise. In this class, my social value is extremely low. I know a minority of the class, the course given is probably my worst subject so I get put on blast every time I'm asked questions and I'm generally quiet because I have to focus on absorbing the information.

Usually speaking, my social value brings girls to me. In my natural environment I am a CEO, Union President, Committee head and generally one of the, if not the most out-going and known person in my social groups. Girls usually come to me, and there is no need to convey or convince anyone of my value. This situation has made it extremely tricky to me.

This HB9 has never glanced at me twice until yesterday when my secretary came to my master course because of an urgent business matter. I took control and solved this issue right then and there, during a break when the HB9 was in my direct vicinity. Ever since I have noticed her looking at me more and more, laughing at some lame joke I threw in the class. This made me quite curious.

I sincerely do not have the time to chase this girl, or even approach her because it would also require me to demonstrate my social value and the reason I do not want to put the effort in is because my instinct tells me she is another one of those pretty manipulative faces. Every fiber of my being tells me she is a BPD. I am curious how all of you deal with conveying value in situations where your environment is either unknown and new and your status is low? (like being horrible at a specific topic in class)

 

[Von]

I know the type of girl you talking about.... but your in a class with her... just talk to her and see where it goes. She might be alright or crazy. You could use her to bring more social status among your group as a ''escort'' to your networking nights.

You don't have to bang her or date her if you don't want.... but you have to kill the ''i need to look at her or say something to her''... The longer you wait the lower your value and chances.

You increase your value to her eyes when you solved the issue and she saw you were a leader in your world. She wants a status man clearly or you confirmed to her you are a mysterious strong person.Or feel focused in class

My advice, talk to her... and see where it goes.... Pretty girls sometimes indeed have it harder or more unstable ''mentally wise''.... my oneitis made me feel the same you did.... but there is one way to find out! TALK TO HER... and who knows she might be a political liaison you need to solve a crisis

 

[fastlife]

I sincerely do not have the time to chase this girl, or even approach her because it would also require me to demonstrate my social value and the reason I do not want to put the effort in is because my instinct tells me she is another one of those pretty manipulative faces. Every fiber of my being tells me she is a BPD.

Male hamster level 10.

Look, you want this girl. Except you derive your sense of self-worth from external factors--you use other people's reactions to you as a crutch because you don't feel you carry enough value as is.

I am curious how all of you deal with conveying value in situations where your environment is either unknown and new and your status is low? (like being horrible at a specific topic in class)

Simply by existing. I have the same value in the VIP section of a high end nightclub as I do in the line at Taco Bell or when I'm sitting on the couch in my bathrobe. My opinion of myself doesn't change.

 

[SHChamp]

Male hamster level 10.

Look, you want this girl. Except you derive your sense of self-worth from external factors--you use other people's reactions to you as a crutch because you don't feel you carry enough value as is.

I think I might have explained incorrectly. The girl is an HB9, definitely, however I do not want her. The reason why is quite simple, because from observation, experiences and instinct her personality is quite **** and by now I have learned to trust just that. I do have to admit that my ego got the best me when she treated me as if I was of low value, and it's because I placed too much importance on other's reactions. I guess indeed that means that my hamster was spinning, embarrassing, but it's a good learning experience.

Simply by existing. I have the same value in the VIP section of a high end nightclub as I do in the line at Taco Bell or when I'm sitting on the couch in my bathrobe. My opinion of myself doesn't change.

I understand what you are trying to say by this, but my opinion of myself is also the same regardless of where I go. Just because you feel and believe you are a king, does not mean that the people around you will. Although since I started thinking about it I decided to stop caring about her opinion and just acted like myself, no matter what situation I am in. Whether people realize your value or not, as long as you respect and value yourself the rest generally falls into place.

 

[Lozboss]

OP already has oneitis.

You're a high value make and yet you're stressing over how to approach a woman? Yeah...Nah.