Hi everybody,
I am new to the forum, I heard that there are some knowledgeable people here, so maybe you can help me out with my issue.
I am a German guy living in Japan and I have been hanging out with this Korean girl from my university lately. Now, since its my first time getting in touch with Korean culture I really do have some problems to understand her behaviour. In other words, this is a request directed at those "experts" among you, who have dated some Korean women and may better understand how to interpret the signs I have been gettin so far.
Anyway, here is the story: We have been going out for dinner for about 4-5 times in the last 2 months or so. While never calling it a date, it was always just the two of us and things usually went pretty smooth- However, from my perspective there are signs that she just wants to be friends as well as thise indicating that she may want something more, so maybe you guys can help me out in deciphering, if there is any sure giveaway for any of the positions:
possible signs:
she messages me now and then, asking how I feel and if I wanna hang out (positive)
she tells me rather private thigs about her life (positive/negative?)
she mentioned at two occasions that she is looking for a boyfriend (positive/negative?)
she offered to cook for me (bake a cake) (positive) allthough she never really followed up on it so far
she talked about former boyfriends (negative)
she takes sometimes quite long to reply to my messages (negative)
she has some unusual interests (supernatural stuff) and asked me whether she should tell her future husband about such an "emberassing" thing (negative) but at the same time she asked me if I mind that my future wife is not into horror-movies (she doesnt like them but knows that I do)
she has not sought for any body-contact so far, like slightly touching me on the shoulder, something which often happens with Japanese girls at least when they like me (negative)
she allowed me to pay for her (positive)
So, I obvously know that the easiest way would be just to ask her what she feels, but the problem here is, that I don't want to ruin a possible friendship by doing that, which would be the case for sure.
That is why I would like to hear the opinion of those of you, who have encountered this kind of behaviour from Koreans or something close to that. Maybe I interpreted some of the stuff wrong and maybe one or more are sure giveaways. Please let me know your thoughts!
P.S. This request is really only directed at people, who did or do live in Asia, since dating rules are fairly different around here and also behaviour can be interpreted fairly differently. ;-)
Thanks in advance!
I am new to the forum, I heard that there are some knowledgeable people here, so maybe you can help me out with my issue.
I am a German guy living in Japan and I have been hanging out with this Korean girl from my university lately. Now, since its my first time getting in touch with Korean culture I really do have some problems to understand her behaviour. In other words, this is a request directed at those "experts" among you, who have dated some Korean women and may better understand how to interpret the signs I have been gettin so far.
Anyway, here is the story: We have been going out for dinner for about 4-5 times in the last 2 months or so. While never calling it a date, it was always just the two of us and things usually went pretty smooth- However, from my perspective there are signs that she just wants to be friends as well as thise indicating that she may want something more, so maybe you guys can help me out in deciphering, if there is any sure giveaway for any of the positions:
possible signs:
she messages me now and then, asking how I feel and if I wanna hang out (positive)
she tells me rather private thigs about her life (positive/negative?)
she mentioned at two occasions that she is looking for a boyfriend (positive/negative?)
she offered to cook for me (bake a cake) (positive) allthough she never really followed up on it so far
she talked about former boyfriends (negative)
she takes sometimes quite long to reply to my messages (negative)
she has some unusual interests (supernatural stuff) and asked me whether she should tell her future husband about such an "emberassing" thing (negative) but at the same time she asked me if I mind that my future wife is not into horror-movies (she doesnt like them but knows that I do)
she has not sought for any body-contact so far, like slightly touching me on the shoulder, something which often happens with Japanese girls at least when they like me (negative)
she allowed me to pay for her (positive)
So, I obvously know that the easiest way would be just to ask her what she feels, but the problem here is, that I don't want to ruin a possible friendship by doing that, which would be the case for sure.
That is why I would like to hear the opinion of those of you, who have encountered this kind of behaviour from Koreans or something close to that. Maybe I interpreted some of the stuff wrong and maybe one or more are sure giveaways. Please let me know your thoughts!
P.S. This request is really only directed at people, who did or do live in Asia, since dating rules are fairly different around here and also behaviour can be interpreted fairly differently. ;-)
Thanks in advance!
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