"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to deal with women at work

cablecow15

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I work at a department store , and today I came across a situation that left me upset with myself.

there was a good looking girl that needed some help finding some things she needed , I found here very cute and attractive , she laughed at the funny remarks I made and smiled a lot when I got her all set I smiled and told her to have a nice day (what I usually do with customers) but a few minuets later I was really regretting not trying for her number or something. What im getting at is should you ,or how should you peruse women when you working , would it be completely acceptable for me to ask for her number even tho im working?

I know what I should have done , but id just like to hear others opinions.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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IamJosan

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I don't think it's inappropriate at all to get a random girl's number at work. Go for it!
 

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I am in the same exact situation myself and I kick myself often but it just don't feel like its appropriate, im gonna say fvck it from now on, there are some hotties that come in my workplace on weekend nights at all hours and have no sausage with them, it couldn't be easier
 

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I have no desire to literally hook up with girls from work. I just have the urge to want them to find me attractive. If they do, then I'm pleased. If they don't, I try to figure out why and grow from there.

Always Be Closing. You'll enjoy yourself more. But put learning and growing over women. It means more. Believe me. Good luck!!
 

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I don't think either of us mean coworkers, classic saying applys...don't sh!t where you eat

but I agree with you, I am in a constant state of improvement and I want to see coworkers tore up in my presence LOL
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I didn't assume you meant coworkers. He clearly stated a customer. And that's what I'm talking about. Customers are in and out. Your game needs to be strong and quick to deal with these ones.
 

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good practice though no? they are in and out quick and will probably never see you again so who cares, unless you do something stupid like ask them if they wanna fvck in the bathroom and they file a complaint with a manager :nono:
 

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cablecow15 said:
good looking girl
cablecow15 said:
needed some help
cablecow15 said:
very cute and attractive
cablecow15 said:
laughed at the funny remarks I made
cablecow15 said:
smiled a lot
I don't think getting other's opinions on here is going to make you feel better about the situation. You need to grow some balls and work towards direct game. Until you're a rockstar and no longer folding shirts at macy's, girls aren't going to toss their own number in your phone without you asking them.



Instead of a potential sunday afternoon sex-a-thon, you're now left with this:

cablecow15 said:
I came across a situation that left me upset with myself.
cablecow15 said:
really regretting not trying for her number
cablecow15 said:
how should you peruse women
Did her looks make you nervous? What was it? Finding the exact reason why you biffed and not shooting the sh!t/complaining might actually assist you in the future.




cablecow15 said:
I know what I should have done
What should you have done? Why didn't you do it?
 

cablecow15

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I work in a hardware store , so that's why i was kinda caught off guard to see this girl in there , im 6'5 and this girl was prolly 6 , im tall n tall girls are awesome to me. I pretty much just flopped , i made quite a few goofy little jokes n she laughed at them more than she needed to , Im not quick on my feet , i need to find ways to react and take in situations better , now that i look back on it i can see the signs , and it sucks , but i guess this is just part of the learning process ...

and i know now that I should have mentioned why her boyfriend wasn't helping her pick this stuff out , and when or if she said i don't have a boyfriend , that's when I follow up with a number close "well why don't you give me your number and ill check in on you n see how your project is going some time"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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