"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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how to deal with woman who think u r a player?

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There is this owman i went out with. She works with me from time to time. Last time one of my coworkers during lunch started talking about all the stories how i get the women i want. True stories that i knew help but at the same time it cast me in the wrong shadow of a player.

So today i go out with this woman who listened to teh above story and after a few drinks we go to a club and start dancing. Soon she says that she has to go home. I heard this "I have to go home" before and it means usually "Im too turned on and i wont be responsibe for my acctions so its better if i go home now before slpeeing with you" I play cool and try to stop her from leaving but she does anywa.... SO how do i progress with a woman who assumes you r a player?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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gruby said:
There is this owman i went out with. She works with me from time to time. Last time one of my coworkers during lunch started talking about all the stories how i get the women i want. True stories that i knew help but at the same time it cast me in the wrong shadow of a player.

So today i go out with this woman who listened to teh above story and after a few drinks we go to a club and start dancing. Soon she says that she has to go home. I heard this "I have to go home" before and it means usually "Im too turned on and i wont be responsibe for my acctions so its better if i go home now before slpeeing with you" I play cool and try to stop her from leaving but she does anywa.... SO how do i progress with a woman who assumes you r a player?
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If she thinks you're a player... that's a good thing. Women always want to be the one to convert you to the husband type.
 
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My girlfriend spent a few months trying to decide whether I was a player or a genuine nice guy. I deliberately left her guessing between the two. She lapped it up. Use it to your advantage. Keep her guessing.
 
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gruby said:
There is this owman i went out with. She works with me from time to time. Last time one of my coworkers during lunch started talking about all the stories how i get the women i want. True stories that i knew help but at the same time it cast me in the wrong shadow of a player.

So today i go out with this woman who listened to teh above story and after a few drinks we go to a club and start dancing. Soon she says that she has to go home. I heard this "I have to go home" before and it means usually "Im too turned on and i wont be responsibe for my acctions so its better if i go home now before slpeeing with you" I play cool and try to stop her from leaving but she does anywa.... SO how do i progress with a woman who assumes you r a player?
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For starters, women thinking u r a player is way better than them thinking you r a loser. So u have a great advantage

Keep flirting. Emphasise that u r forced to jump from girl to girl bcos u cant find one 'special enough'. Make her work hard to convince u that she's 'special'
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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yea being thought of as a player is SUPERB. she doesn't like that your controlling the frame and is trying to reclaim her usual pedestal that men give her.

if she asks if your a player or if you do this to all the girls you've got two options

1) over exaggerate, "yea well i thought talking to you would make it a nice round 40 for today"

2) push pull her, "only the adventurous ones...blah blah...i thought you were perhaps i was wrong...blah blah...if i am this friendship will never work out.
 
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