How to deal with weird post-hook up behaviour

[Firefly]

So I hooked up with a 20 year old HB7 from my university (I have gone back to do a professional qualification). After the first hook up, we had a casual thing for about a month, before she called it off. Because it was a casual thing, I was ok with that and decided to keep up the friendship with her, espcially as we have common hobbies I still enjoyed doing with her.

However, in the last two weeks, in our conversations, she keeps on bringing up the fact that she broke it off because of the 17 year age gap, and how embarassed she was about her friends knowing about the relationship. She keeps on referring to what we had as weird. She has also started to tell me about her new casual relationships, including a string of one night stands who treated her badly the next day.

I figure I have messed up this one by trying to stay friends after we stopped sleeping together, so I will just walk away. It just annoys me that she has become so disrepectful when I just tried to be friends with her. Does anyone have any perspectives on why women behave like this?

 

[st_99]

well, you have to remember what its like to be 20 yo. not smart, all over the place, still developing, indecisive, emotional, and on and on...

it is what it is, there is nothing to analyze, you cant get blood from a stone. dogs bite, fish swim, and 20 yo's bounce around
to different guys.

 

[Slickster]

I don't think you have done anything wrong here. You will always get this kind of behaviour from young (under 25) women.

Remember when you were in high school you thought of people just one Grade higher than you as "old". That is where this chick is at and so are her friends. 37 is really old in her mind.

In these situations never let a younger chick make you feel as though you are "old". It is up to you to imply that SHE is too young and immature to be with you. University is a period where young people are enlightened and "grow up". You can use this to your advantage

When she makes comments about those young dudes treating her badly say something like "Yeah, it takes awhile to figure it out." Something really vague with a hint of being condescending.

Find ways to subtly make fun of her age.

- You wouldn't understand
- You won't appreciate that yet
- I used to do stupid sh!t too
- You're not ready for that yet

When she's having a "drama" moment laugh and tell her you will talk to her later. Act "above" all her silly sh!t.

Remember that you're not going to be able to turn this into anything more than a casual fling so don't go getting feelings for this one. Treat her like a child. Be the super cool, fun older guy who is there when she needs a "ride".

 

[muscleman]

First, let her come to you. If she's interested, she will spend time with you. I don't know if you'll be able to maintain a platonic relationship with her though.

Also, while it's normal for attractive 20 year olds to have one night stands, her admitting it to you is a little condescending.

Her telling you she broke it off because of the age gap is bs, because for a month you had a fling and it didn't bother her.

Look - she 'called it off'. She DUMPED you. Move on. If she's truly coming back around that's one thing, but if you're still staying in contact with her despite her breaking it off with you, you ALLOWED yourself to be disrespected.

The reason 'why' she behaves like this is because she's a cute 20 year old. She has an insane amount of options and the female brain goes into ego overdrive with that much attention.

When you're dealing with girls this young, they expect you to be the no-bull**** guy. 20 year old guys lacking maturity will supplicate to her and put with her crap. You (should) have the experience and maturity to not take crap from her and THATS what makes you attractive to younger girls. They're looking for an experienced man when they tire of boys.

Kudos on bagging her. Now go find another.