"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How to deal with vague "busy" responses

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So I was chatting with this girl at the drive-thru the other day, asked her out, she said "Sure" instantly. When I asked for her number she briefly added "I have a boyfriend, but ya..." and gave me her number. Texted her later, super fast responses and seemingly high interest level. Said we'll make plans during the week she said "Sounds good :)" etc.

Then today I text her, she's responding quickly again and I ask what her schedule is and she says she's really busy with school/work. Zzzzzzzzz...I don't doubt that she is busy, unless she's in med school or something, the generic "I'm busy but I'll let you know!" excuse is a farse and we all know it. Why the sudden flakiness?

Just to add, this girl isn't that hot or anything, pretty mediocre to be honest so it's not like she has tons of guys hitting her up in my opinion. I want to try to hook up with her on the side (unlikely) or at least very least become friends for networking purposes she can set me up with her female friends if she thinks I'm a cool guy. Figured it would be a good opportunity to practice my dating skills even if nothing comes of it.

Do I just let this one die or should I pursue any further? I feel like the dating game is like pulling teeth....very frustrating.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Don't ask next time. Just set a date/time/place and tell her to meet you then. If she declines with no counter offer, try again in a week. If the same thing happens, then next her
 
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Yeah good idea. I was considering just being more assertive and picking a date/time like you suggested so that's totally in line with my thinking. Thanks.

Does this stem from the line of thinking that some chicks are flaky/need to be hand held sometimes instead of offering a vague time frame?
 
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Thanks! I just tried this method with another recycled lead just now who didn't return my voicemail and was being kinda vague about meeting up. I set a time/place and she said she is working, but did make a counter offer. So ya, I'm gonna use this as my new standard if a girl doesn't give a definitive day she's free.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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