"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How to deal with unrequited 'love' in the workplace...

sylvester the cat

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So this is difficult. Never happened to me before. Kinda sucks.

It's like having the most gorgeous, edible chocolate cake (or whatever takes your fancy) sitting in front of you 8 hours a day, 5 days a week without being able to touch it or taste it. Quite frustrating.

I asked the chocolate cake out but it refused.

I tried NC and acting indifferent with the chocolate cake but it's kind of sad watching others interact with a cake i'll never get to taste or touch especially when me and the cake had such a good rapport before. plus i dread the day i find out someone else is getting to lick and eat that chocolate cake. it's only a matter of time.

I've now resorted to taking on another job in an effort to get away from it.

I'm sure there will be a silver lining in all this. :)
 
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alvafe

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from experience? if you want to find another job is all nice, but only go for a better one.

you should ignore her and move on, think your chocolate cake is poisoned or something :p.

now, you could try to pursue this but it will not be good for you and the place will get heavy, some here would even say she can F*** with you with one simple complain of harassment. if you try anything do things related with work and be friendly, better if you just shows you don't care, and that means you really don't care if she would go out or not with you or if she like you or not.

or you could search pretty much all the topics I started about a situation like that and read all comments there.
 
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Q. "How do deal with unrequited love in the workplace?"

A. "Find another jobby".
 

marmel75

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Get other hot girls to come visit you at work and makes sure she sees them with you. Will get the hamster wheel spinning about what you must have going for you that attracted her...in fact this is one of the best things to do in any situation to get a non interested girl.
 
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