"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How to deal with this situation?

Game_going_good

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Ok this girl flaked me last week, cause aparently she's "busy"(21 yr old, said she had to do extra hours at work, and college and such). So I went NC for the whole week, and now she texts me saying "Hey I miss you. Forgot me?" (referring to the complete NC from me)

I don't trust this "miss you" game from any chick. But what/how should I respond?

and from what i know, i should say no if she asks to meet now right?(i know 100% she will ask, so yeah), and suggest another time right?

thanks in advance guys
 
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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If she only flaked on you that one time, give her another chance. Women flake, there's nothing you can do about it.

But if this is consistent behavior, then it's a red flag.

If she asks you to go out sometime, don't beat around the bush by saying your busy and suggesting another time. That's for AFCs who get too caught up in the game.

Your goal is to see this girl right? Then agree with it and see her.

Beating around the bush gets you nowhere.
 

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Eternal87 said:
If she only flaked on you that one time, give her another chance. Women flake, there's nothing you can do about it.

But if this is consistent behavior, then it's a red flag.

If she asks you to go out sometime, don't beat around the bush by saying your busy and suggesting another time. That's for AFCs who get too caught up in the game.

Your goal is to see this girl right? Then agree with it and see her.

Beating around the bush gets you nowhere.


+1 with what Eternal said! Great post!


She was busy with school and work; might be bs, might be true. But you shouldn't judge by this one incident. Lots of girls, especially young ones, flake when they aren't too sure how they feel about you, meaning they're interested but they just don't know on what level.

Go hang out with her and see how it goes.





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Well, for the record we've met a number of times, and she's only flaked me I guess 3 or so times. Heck I don't even think they were really flakes, but this time it definitely was a flake(I found out from her friend who coincidentally told me what the girl at subject did that whole day(I didn't ask btw).

So this was a first true flake I guess.

I guess I might be looking too deep into it, but I see it disresepectful that she had to make am excuse, a lie, not to see me, I mean, I would've rathered she face up say she doesn't want to/doesn't feel like.

So then I should agree to meeting? I've read posts that if ur flaked u should deny a meeting next time she asks but then agree to one after that/suggest after that.
 
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