SchoolBoy
Don Juan
How do you tell if someone is genuinely interested in you if they call you everyday, text you everyday, have sexual chemistry, and not friend-zoned. But flakes out, barely has time to meet in person, and doesn't reschedule?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How to deal with this situation?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Igetit!
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They will invest something of themselves into you.SchoolBoy said:How do you tell if someone is genuinely interested in you
It'll cost them something. They'll be willing to make adjustments to their lives and schedules in order to fit you in.
Also,they'll want to physically be in your presense.
The calling and texting everyday means NOTHING.Schoolboy said:if they call you everyday, text you everyday, have sexual chemistry, and not friend-zoned.
In fact,it'd probably get on my nerves after a while,reguardless of how "hot" she is.
I just go by the forum's #1 rule:Go by what a woman does,NOT BY what she says.
Her talking over the phone is saying...
Her sending text messages is her saying...
What has she actually done that takes any real effort on her part?
If she calls and texts you everyday,but repeatedly flakes on you and doesn't reschedule or suggests another time,that means there's something emotionally she's getting out of the calling and texting.
The "I'm busy" line is a lie.Schoolboy said:But flakes out, barely has time to meet in person, and doesn't reschedule?
When you try to spend time with her,she tells you she can't because she's busy with other things,right?
Well tell me this....
Does she eat? You know,like food?
Uhh...she does eat,doesn't she? Or is she so "busy" with work,school,and whatever else in her life that she goes months and months at a time without stopping to have a single meal?
My point is this:If she can find time in her "busy life" to eat,then she can find time to have dinner with you,right?
I mean she has to eat anyway.
It's really simple. If a woman wants to see you,THEN SHE'LL SEE YOU.
It's just that simple.
If her only connection with you is the phone (calling/texting) and that's it,then she AW-ing.
A woman wants to feels sexy,desired,wanted by a man.
She wanted to be held. She wants to be touched. She wants a man's arms around her.
So if she's rejecting all that in favor of texting and phonecalls,then something's wrong.
A text message can't look at woman with desire in it's eyes.
It can't replace the security a woman feels when she's in her man's arms.
No woman who's genuinely interested in a guy will favor being connected to him by "technology" over human touch and contact.
That's one of the main reasons long distance relationships don't work,she misses the closeness,the physical intimacy.
Phonecalls and texting can't replace that. So if she chooses that over YOU,she may not be as interested as you think she is.
SchoolBoy
Don Juan
Thank you Igetit! for you're insight. Your response knocked some major sense into me =P
SchoolBoy
Don Juan
How would I deal with this AW? Is there any way to get her to chase me genuinely? or is it a lost cause and better to "next" her?
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persistence beats resistance
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.