"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I've been trying to get out more and meet new people. I've had opportunities to have sex come up, but I act like a chicken and the girl gets disinterested (obviously). I feel like I can see other people interacting and that since I'm just beginning to know and apply all this stuff, that everyone else is so much better at it than me.

I feel really overwhelmed by it all, almost like I'm not even close to being on that level. I dunno, it's just knowing and seeing what it is you have to do. I just know I'm not at that point yet.

So how do you guys deal with this? Has it been so extreme for you that you thought you'd never get to be on that level?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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nobody said it was going to be easy. just keep it up and this pain and anxiety you're going thru now will be your best teacher in the future.
your getting experience my friend, real life experience.
everytime you go out and you think you got no results you learned a thousend times more than reading stuff on this site.
youll be alright, youll get it. just dont take it too seriously.
this is why we call it the game.
 
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Originally posted by DJHoolahoop
How to deal with the overwhelmed feeling...
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Persevere...

Just keep thinking progress is progress regardless of if it's fast or slow... so... take baby steps...
 
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Attention... Attention...

U feel this way because you don’t KNOW how to do it, right? ... Well think about driving for example.... before u were able to drive... before u got into that drivers seat for the 1st time... what were ur feelings about driving? ... Did you think that you would be able to drive to town and back with traffic etc from the beginning? ... I think i speak for everyone when i say that NO, u never thought that you would be able to do that, you doubted that you would even get round the corner without f*cking up.

THE SAME THING APPLIES HERE!!

You are not going to suddenly be a great lover from the start, and guess what, NOONE did either. All those people that you see are at that level because they worked their way up to that level, gaining more and more experience at it. Now you need to do the same... you need to start somewhere, so yes, in the beginning you aren’t going to be a great lover, you will probably not be so good at it the first time or 2... but I guarantee you that the more you do it, the better you will get at it, just like with driving. I remember a time when I wouldn’t go faster than 40mph, and now? I enjoy cruising at 100mph.... get my drift?

So now go out there, don’t be scared to f*ckup or not be "good enough", and just practice and gain experience. I can garantee you that the 1st girl that i kissed probably till this day thinks that I was a sh!t kisser, and maybe the 2 or 3 girls after her too.... but if you had to go up to any of the girls after that, they will all tell u differently.... and after a while you might be getting text messages from women telling you that u are a sex god... how about that ey? ;) .. Now go out there, and do your thing... NO FEAR, just do it... u have to start SOMETIME, better sooner than later.:woo:


Laterz...
 
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I like what you posted aequitas as it made a lot of sense. Now I actually will just tough it up more and keep going with it. I was planning on doing it anyways, but it helps to hear this to really know that I'm not alone and that others go through the same thing.

But I guess my next question is that if you aren't good at something, why and how would you get the chance to get better if others are better at it than you are? Meaning, why would I get a chance with a girl if there's already "better" out there?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Re:

You need to remember that its a cycle of life... just like you don’t have the experience yet, so don’t MANY other girls out there. And plus, its not just your experience that chicks go for... they go for YOU, and all YOU have to do is act confident and do what you want to do. If in the beginning they think you are not experienced enough, then fine, but you are at least moving forward and are one step closer to being GOOD at it. most of the times when u will kiss a chick etc she wont even know if u have ever kissed anyone before, or if your a porn star, until after she kisses/has sex with you, but by that time you have already "won" because you got what u wanted, you got more experience, and if she doesn’t like it, then so be it, and so you go and find a diff chick to get more experience on, and so the cycle goes on, and before u know it, knowing how to be a good kisser, and being a sex god will become 2nd nature to you. Now stop looking for excuses why NOT to go out there and do your thing, and JUST DO IT ALREADY!;) :woo:


Laterz...
 
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