Ok so if anyone was following my thread from a couple weeks ago I am still talking to the girl I met at a party a couple weeks ago. The 2 of us went to carowinds yesterday (her idea, plus she drove and paid for my ticket). ended up going out with her and some of her friends last night and having a good time. i stayed over, but only got her shirt off and a few heated makeout sessions. no worries, i'll be banging her shortly...she's had bad experiences in the past with guys trying to get in her pants so she's making me wait to see if i actually like her. i played it cool when she came in with the last minute ASD (when i tried to finger her) so i feel like i passed the test and its a green light next time i stay over with her.
she's a really laid back girl, easy to talk to, doesn't blow up my phone, doesn't like typical mushy stuff (presents, flowers, guys paying for her...can you say jackpot???), but the only problem is her ex boyfriend. now i don't know the whole situation because i've been following the advice from this site...which is to not talk about him at all...but from what i understand they dated pretty much all throughout high school (she's a freshman in college this year). she says she ended things, and they go to different schools, but i think its the type of thing where he's the guy she compares all her boyfriends to, the guy she always ends up going back to, etc.
now i am not jealous or anything, i have only known this girl for like 3 weeks and i have no doubt i'm better than whoever this guy is, but she keeps talking about him. she is the kind of girl that is constantly talking, and he was a big part of her life for 4 years so naturally the ex will come up in conversations about her past, but i don't know how to handle it. if i want to start dating this girl, do i tell her to quit talking about him? or do i just keep doing what i'm doing now, which is just ignoring it?
i typically get way too attached to girls that i am talking to, but i'm not that way with this girl. part of that is because i've learned so much from this site and my mindset is changing, but also i think my subconscious is not letting me get invested in this girl because in the back of my mind i feel like she's still in love with him.
she's a really laid back girl, easy to talk to, doesn't blow up my phone, doesn't like typical mushy stuff (presents, flowers, guys paying for her...can you say jackpot???), but the only problem is her ex boyfriend. now i don't know the whole situation because i've been following the advice from this site...which is to not talk about him at all...but from what i understand they dated pretty much all throughout high school (she's a freshman in college this year). she says she ended things, and they go to different schools, but i think its the type of thing where he's the guy she compares all her boyfriends to, the guy she always ends up going back to, etc.
now i am not jealous or anything, i have only known this girl for like 3 weeks and i have no doubt i'm better than whoever this guy is, but she keeps talking about him. she is the kind of girl that is constantly talking, and he was a big part of her life for 4 years so naturally the ex will come up in conversations about her past, but i don't know how to handle it. if i want to start dating this girl, do i tell her to quit talking about him? or do i just keep doing what i'm doing now, which is just ignoring it?
i typically get way too attached to girls that i am talking to, but i'm not that way with this girl. part of that is because i've learned so much from this site and my mindset is changing, but also i think my subconscious is not letting me get invested in this girl because in the back of my mind i feel like she's still in love with him.