How to deal with Shy women?

[NewKid99]

HI All --

New here. Need some advice as I've never run into this type of woman before.

I (26) have been dating a woman, 26, for over 3 months. I've been leading the relationship on ALL aspects. Things have been great and we have sex quite often.

The only problem is that she is very, very, shy. I've accepted this personality, but it's getting old now. I've become exhausted with coming up with ideas for dates and ALWAYS asking her out. I mean 3 weeks I didnt mind, but 3 months ??????

She has consistently accepted my dates from day one. She just dont say a whole a lot...

How do I handle her? Anyone else date a super shy/quiet woman.

 

[slaog]

I had a similar experiance. Dated a girl and all she would do is answer questions with 1 word. She'd no spark for life at all and although she wasn't a bad person she was very negative. Is your date negative or just shy?


I'd say if she doesn't open up to you a bit more soon then you'll have to forget about her.

 

[NewKid99]

I had a similar experiance. Dated a girl and all she would do is answer questions with 1 word. She'd no spark for life at all and although she wasn't a bad person she was very negative. Is your date negative or just shy?


I'd say if she doesn't open up to you a bit more soon then you'll have to forget about her.

Def not negative. Just quiet and really agrees to whatever my ideas and/or opinions are. I mean $hit - it might take her 2 year to finally tells me how she feels about how things are going.

 

[magickarl]

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The #1 rule about DJing - Do what makes YOU happy.

Some people are just quiet people, and if she hasn't opened up to you after dating you for more than 90 days, she probably isn't going to. Maybe I'm looking at this the wrong way, but to me it seems she is less like a girlfriend, and more like person that you can stand to be around that is open to the idea of sex with you.

I would say that if this relationship makes you happy, continue it. However, when I read this post, I get strong feelings that you aren't happy about it.

- For one: The title of the post is "How to DEAL with shy women?" Which implies that you have to DEAL with her. DEAL as in put up with, learn to live with, settle for. Maybe thats not what you meant, and I'm just getting caught up in semantics, but your word choice isn't one that I would have used to describe a happy relationship.

- You have became EXHAUSTED keeping the relationship going. You are ALWAYS the one to set things up and come up with ideas. A relationship should not be a chore that has a benefit (sex). It should be something you do for fun, and more over something that both parties actively participate in.

Ask yourself: Is this the kind of girl you want an LTR with? One that does nothing to further the relationship and scarcely talks? If it makes YOU happy. Unless you've been spinning plates on the side, think about all of the other passionate and talkative women you've been missing out on in the last 90 days.

Good Luck

 

[Pakwah]

Shy girls....ughh....boring....
not to say at first we want to crack that shell, but once inside, its game over.

 

[dadmonson]

See how she is with her family. Some people are quiet but once they open up, you can't get them to shut up!!!