"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to deal with shy girls...??

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There is this girl who I just recently met. During class I always see her eye'ing me a lot and I do the same to her, but she quickly looks away. I go up to talk to her after class ends and try to start a conversation, but only answers with short answers. Even when she COULD say more...she always says "I don't know". For example, I know she dances so I ask her questions about her dancing, and she says things like " I like to dance, but not so much and I don't know" then acts like she is texting or reading a paper. She never tries to keep a conversation going, until a friend of hers comes along. When it is just me and her, shes quiet, but when a friend of hers joins in, she opens up more and talks to me more. Anyone experienced with shy girls...what can I do?? Are all shy girls like this..do they avoid talking to the guy they like?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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For shy girls, persistence is the key. Crack at that shell of theirs and eventually they'll open up.
 

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Snap87 said:
There is this girl who I just recently met. During class I always see her eye'ing me a lot and I do the same to her, but she quickly looks away. I go up to talk to her after class ends and try to start a conversation, but only answers with short answers. Even when she COULD say more...she always says "I don't know". For example, I know she dances so I ask her questions about her dancing, and she says things like " I like to dance, but not so much and I don't know" then acts like she is texting or reading a paper. She never tries to keep a conversation going, until a friend of hers comes along. When it is just me and her, shes quiet, but when a friend of hers joins in, she opens up more and talks to me more. Anyone experienced with shy girls...what can I do?? Are all shy girls like this..do they avoid talking to the guy they like?
Do whatever gets her to open up more to you. Its all about creating a comfort level between the two of you. Shes shy because she feels uncomfortable being in a 1 on 1 convo with someone shes interested in. When her friend comes along though, she has someone to relate to and someone she is more comfortable with, thus she opens up more. In these situations, you really gotta try to get good conversations going and develop a comfort level between the TWO of you. Then move on from there.

And just for the record, I almost always next shy girls like this. In my opinion, theyre just not worth my time and effort to try "breaking their shells", especially since you never know how long that could take.
 

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What if we txt each other for about 2 minutes, have a conversation while txting then she suddenly stops and doesnt reply back anymore. Then when i call her about 2 times, she doesn't pick up?? Is she nervous about only us TWO talking, or she just not interested?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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