Ryan Adams
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
how to deal with seeing a chick who ghosted you in public?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
mrgoodstuff
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Mind your business . What if a dude did it to you?
Ryan Adams
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so just dont even talk to her or act like she never ghosted you? basically act like you dont give 2 sh!ts
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Why would you act like you dont give 2 shytes? There should be no acting involved. You shouldnt give 2 shytes in the first place.
Act indifferent, the same as you would if she was there or if she wasnt. If she comes up to talk just be cordial, not flirty. A simple "Hey how are you" will suffice.
Ryan Adams
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good advice because I knew I'd see a girl who ghosted me months back (not the same one I was talking about in earlier threads shes dead to the world) I saw at an event for work and she saw me and I acted like nothing happened I said how have you been then went on my way and was chatting it up with a cute girl and I saw the ghoster girl try and get closer and closer to me but I just kept it moving.
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Do nothing. A woman that ghosts is dead to you.
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Not doing it right.
The joke is on her. Each passing month, a egg drops, and she bears closer to metapause.
Society is cheering her off the cliff like a water buffalo.
It's ideal you live a life worth remembering. You get your **** together so, when you run into a tramp, she's falling off the cliff, and you're firing off like Elon Musks Falcon 9.
Musk is looking to Terraforming Mars. Do you think he gives a **** about some piss ant from the past?
Neither of us are on his level of genius. The point is to do like him. Shift gears. Call all-in on this life, in your endeavors, and truly transcend the fabric of your being as well as the world around you.
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Mate, some slut didn't ghost. She was just playing games and being idiotic.
I texted her some nonsense and lied to her for being a ****.
Guess what?
I ran into her with a chick around my arm Age 19.
There's no sweeter feel then running into a train wreck from your past when you got top form smv around your arm. Usually, these women are thicker, getting fat, single moms, bastard children different men, and life is garbage.
It's the sweetest feel. Almost as good as sex lulz but not quite. I love to pie skank from the past.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.