How to deal with resistance?

[Firefly]

I have had a number of encounters recently where I have been making out with a girl, and then she says something like "It is not that I don't want to have sex with you, but I made a promise to myself not to have another one night stand for awhile" or "I don't want to rush into sex too quickly".

I have always been very conscious of not wanting to force a girl into sex, so I always responded to these comments by stopping everything entirely. The thing is I now keep on hearing about how these same girls have jumped into bed with other guys on the same night.

My question is should I be more forceful/persistent? I have had friends who have been the victim of date rape, so I am very conscious of not wanting to force a girl into sex she does not want. At the same time, I get the feeling that sometimes girls put up a token resistance so that they do not feel like they are being too easy. Where should I draw the line?

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

The last part of what you said sums it up, it's token resistance. A good approach (mystery method actually) is to disengage from all sexual activities, kill the mood (lights on, candles out, music off, whatever you have going on) and do some mundane activity. Turn on the t.v., play a board game, act like you're unphased. Being more persistent will only strengthen her resolve against what you want to do.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

or u could say..."i don't think we should do this either" and kiss her somemore. she prolly still wants to do it the same night...she just might be worried if something bad will happen, just got to reassure her.

 

[Alphamale1821]

when she say's that i would stop for some time then start getting her really hot and then out of the blue stop. If she say's why did you stop or some bull sh1t you say "what was i thinking trying to hook up with i don't want to make you feel like a wh0re, but then again i don't fvck wh0res.

With her being "turned on" she will either be thinking "wtf this guy is a creep and she leaves OR she will be so turned on by how you are able to turn off your sexual feelings for her(showing her disintrest) and by the end of it all she will have ripped your clothes off.

You be the one in control turn her on, when she says stop turn up the heat a bit but also YOU randomly stop when she starts to get turned on and have her come for you. However you need to be the one to know when enough is enough. If she is saying no i don't think we should do this is her trying to assure her self that if she doesn't sleep with you she won't be a wh0re.(even though she may want to) As opposed to her saying STOP or NO you don't want to ever force yourself or make her feel that way.

It's just something you have to learn as time goes on with different women.

 

[COD]

NOPE try this instead, WHEN A CHIC SAYS NO, STOP........stop......take a lil break then start up again after a few minutes right back where you left off.

You racked up points , just cause she gave some resistance does not mean you automatically lose all the points you built up.

No may mean No, not right now........it may take another date or just more subtle persistance or 1 step forward 2 steps back.......ESCALATE ever so gently.....tease em, then stop, then start again, then stop.

a chic said to me........nope I just aint feeling it, I know when I meet a guy wether or not its going to happen.......so I paused,asked if she had AC in her car..........grabbed her hand, led her to her car........said lets take a ride.................10 minutes later we are at a hotel doing it doggy style.

SHE ORIGINALLY SAID NO WAY.........yet the end result was her naked.