"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how to deal with potential lesbian??

jamescr73

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Last week i was out with some of my guy friends eating at a restaurant and our waitress was smoking hot. So i was messing with her bad, and long story short, after a lot of C&F, and fukking with her pretty hard I got her number. After some short convo, I find out we have a mutual friend she worked with for 3 years. So I called him up and got the dirt and find out shes a lesbian. So i dont really care im down for whatever. So a few days roll by and i call her and leave a message. She never returns the call. I text her 4 days later and still got no reply, so I blow her off.

Tonight (1 week ago today I got the number), right when i get home from the club, I get a text message from her asking whats up. Now its game time. So we start texting and I go ahead and drop the L bomb. She admits she likes girls, but says shes not bi. So I ask her if she likes boys and she says "Um not really... but you seem really cool... Im talkin to this girl". So of course i throw in the well i can deal with 2 if you can, and she says she cant, so I say well lets hang out and we'll see what happens. Then she invited me to come up to her work tomorrow.

So, im going up there. I have no idea what to expect, Im totally confused. Chick says shes not bi, but likes girls (Lesbian obviously), but has interest in me, and im not 1% girly. I was messing with her so bad at dinner that night, that the guys at the table said "no way youll get that girls number". My wingman buddy that was there said "oh yeah he will". So i guess i just keep up the busting on her attitude, and see where it goes.

You guys got any advice?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Lame, you are chasing rainbows! :rolleyes: You'll never find it!!
 

Phyzzle

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My policy is don't get friends involved. And if you do, keep info like that close to your vest.

It's COUNTERintuitive, but in my experience, bi girls often want you to be more macho/domineering than other girls do, especially in the sack.

I mean, really, you aren't going to impress this girl with your gentleness or cunnilingus skills, so why try?
 

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It sounds like she has 'lesbian until graduation' syndrome. She's just fvcked up and experimenting. An ex of mine was a 'lesbian' for a while, and I got to meet a lot of them. None of the ones I met were hot. Almost all of them looked like they should be driving a dog sled team across Alaska.
 
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