Men like femininity. That DOES extend to all men. You are interpreting the term ‘girliness’ in a different way than what I meant. I mean it when they are NOT being flirty. Guys tend to like ‘girly’ chicks when they are flirting with them. But not because they’re girly, but because they’re flirting with them.
It’s on a subconscious level. But sure.
It’s not jaded negativity like how you presume. That’s just your own interpretation of what I said. It’s more like “it’s just life” kind of thing. It’s realism. I know that what I want does not exist. Poor me, boohoo I’ll cry myself a river and kms. So what. I’m just saying what is and what isn’t. We always disagree on this.
We are at different stages in our lives which is why you first interpret it this way. But you forget that this is not ALWAYS true. Things just change. It’s as simple as that. Again, it’s life.
The problem is, people don’t question why. Women put their men in situations where it’s a damned-if-I-do, damned-if-I-don’t scenario very often. Where he’s either gonna be too alpha or too beta (for lack of better terms), and no in between. Too alpha, and she feels his strength but not his love. Too beta, and there’s no strength which means no attraction. This is why I dislike girliness.
E.g. ‘What do you think of this hairstyle?’ Now I know she likes it and wants to get it, she’s just testing me to see what I’ll say. Now based off our dynamics between me and said girl, if I said yes, then it meant I would have been weaker. But if I said no, it would have meant that I didn’t like her because I’m not sensitive to her feelings. I had to play it dumb and say ‘hmmm, it depends on the girl’ even though I know she’s talking about herself. She just facepalmed and laughed because she thought I was funny even though I acted stupid. Little does she know... I played it right so that I didn’t become too much of one or the other. But it gets hard sometimes though. And if it gets to where I have to choose her or my dignity, I’m never giving up the latter. Never. And then they get upset when I don’t. Like I HAVE to give up some self-respect if I want her to think I like her or care about her? **** that, it ruins everything.
The problem is, the man usually DOES put his relationship first, because in order to maintain a really long relationship, he also needs to be able to support a family as well. The woman would leave him otherwise. But the thing is, it’s always the woman that changes the dynamics of the relationship. Once you have kids, THEY come first. And THEY will be her excuse not to do her wifely duties anymore. Hence why problems always arise AFTER kids are born. An old man told me that a few weeks ago, and said that before I get married (if I ever want to, he says it’s not a good idea haha), that I would need to understand that before getting engaged. And I’m not bothered by not coming first anymore either. I mean hey, that’s going to happen. It’s just the way things go. But if she uses them as an excuse not to satisfy my needs anymore while I still do hers, then I will become bothered. And the thing is, most women DO use their children as an excuse to have less responsibility.
The dynamics WILL shift, and maintaining the relationship does not come first anymore. This is something that as I’m writing actually DOES bother me. Especially because I’ve always been more relationship-minded than a casual plate spinner. But fortunately for me, I’m strong enough and proud enough that I am willing to throw it all away at the drop of a pencil should my needs not be met. A broken household is often times better than a dysfunctional one.
Too much so, and in both cases it’s because of the woman. She tried corrupting her man, or was a snake all along.
Hey, what’s the oldest profession in the world?
There’s a reason why they say it is what it is.
It does though. ‘Girliness’ is a personality trait. Redhead or blond or whatever is a non-deformative physical feature. Girly chicks are more like ‘oh it hurts’ and never want to have sex ever again after they have a kid or two. A feminine woman feeling the same thing will still continue to try for her husband and then over time learn to enjoy it. That is just one example. I’m also not saying that all girly chicks are like that too, I’m just saying that the same type of manipulation that THOSE types of women do is the same type as when a girly chick tries to mold herself into your ‘perfect’ girl. And it’s an extremely scary situation for a man to be put into.
Going from feminine to girly is, but not from girly to feminine.
That is true for a feminine woman becoming more girly, but not true for a girly woman trying to become more ‘feminine’.
Then you don’t understand what a girly girl is. It’s about the nuance of the action more so than the action itself.
