How To Deal With Family

[Sojourn]

Ok It’s been a tough month and a half for me. Let me just start from the beginning. I have been over weight my entire life 5'10" 265lbs 30%BF. About 2 months ago I started a diet. When I started my family gave me all kinds of ****. Telling me I was going to fail, and saying stuff like why am I wasting money on food, etc... I just kept chugging along and eventually lost 15 lbs. At that time I had some personal problems that were affecting my grades in school. To top it all off my dad lost his job so I had to work more hours in order to pay the bills. Needless to say I fell of the wagon. I stopped working out and dropped the diet. I gained all the weight back.

After I got off my diet my family gave me even more ****. They were telling me how they were right and they knew I would fail. I tried not caring, but it really hurts coming from your family. I just thought they would be supportive of me, but they have been the complete opposite. For a while it really got me down. I just started up my diet/working out again and like clock work they keep trying to bring me down. I try not to care, but I can't. Every time I hear a stupid comment I just try to shrug it off. I'm just at a point where I don't know what to do. I don't want to care what they think, but every time they say something to me I feel bad like if I'm the one that's doing something wrong.

I'm at my wits end. How do you not care what other people think especially your family? How do you deal with haters like this? They just have a way to make me feel insignificant and small. I just don't know what to do.

 

[sharkbeat]

I know how you feel. If it's all possible for you, leave your family, rent an apartment somewhere or stay with a friend (pay her money to keep you). Or, you could say something back to them and set up a deal that if you managed to lose the weight, you want them to leave you alone or something.

 

[Aragon034]

(pay her money to keep you)

i love how it's naturally assumed it's a female.

If none of what the above says is possible, then you've just got to grit through it. One of the best traits you can have is persistance and weight loss demands it.

If you go to a gym, try and make friends there. most of the people i've come across in the gym are very supportive and know the kinds of pain you can go through.

It might not mean much, but i'm rootin for you. Along with anybody else who decides that they want to reach a healthy body weight.

BTW, i know what it's like to lose weight, i started this year at 230 lbs and i'm currently 175. Wasn't easy, and i sustained alot of ridicule (surprisingly mostly from other guys) but my persistance has paid off.

You need to grasp onto the fact that if you commit to this, that it will get better. You'll reach a point where your family will either turn from negative to positive support, or they will show their true colors and ostracise you, in which case i highly recommend you seek the means to become independant without ruining your chances for financial success.

 

[suavesuave]

hahahah fat guy hahahaha

 

[Sojourn]

i love how it's naturally assumed it's a female.

If none of what the above says is possible, then you've just got to grit through it. One of the best traits you can have is persistance and weight loss demands it.

If you go to a gym, try and make friends there. most of the people i've come across in the gym are very supportive and know the kinds of pain you can go through.

It might not mean much, but i'm rootin for you. Along with anybody else who decides that they want to reach a healthy body weight.

BTW, i know what it's like to lose weight, i started this year at 230 lbs and i'm currently 175. Wasn't easy, and i sustained alot of ridicule (surprisingly mostly from other guys) but my persistance has paid off.

You need to grasp onto the fact that if you commit to this, that it will get better. You'll reach a point where your family will either turn from negative to positive support, or they will show their true colors and ostracise you, in which case i highly recommend you seek the means to become independant without ruining your chances for financial success.

Right now moving out is not an option if I could I already would be gone. Today I just said **** it I'm going to live my life. I'm just going to ignore them. It sucks that my family isn't what I thought they would be. That's probably why I feel so hurt. I'm just going to do my own thing from now on.

hahahah fat guy hahahaha

Yeah I'm fat, but I'm trying to do something about that.

 

[DJCorleone]

keep going bro, ignore all the idiots and stay true to yourself and yours goals, because one day, you'll be the one laughing.

good luck!

 

[DJCorleone]

keep going bro, ignore all the idiots and stay true to yourself and yours goals, because one day, you'll be the one laughing.

good luck!

 

[DJCorleone]

keep going bro, ignore all the idiots and stay true to yourself and yours goals, because one day, you'll be the one laughing.

good luck!

edit: sorry, triple post, damn browser kept timing out.

 

[Halloween]

Hey man,

Congratulations on having the dedication to continue taking care of yourself.

(I was kind of shocked and appalled to read that your family is not supporting you.)

It's all about generating momentum. Nowadays I feel scuzzy if I don't get a chance to exercise most days. It's the endorphins, baby.

Consider the possibility of joining a sport or amateur team--something you find genuinely fun. You'll be surrounded by guys who give off positive vibes to cancel out the BS you're getting at home

 

[It's-Me]

Ok It’s been a tough month and a half for me. Let me just start from the beginning. I have been over weight my entire life 5'10" 265lbs 30%BF. About 2 months ago I started a diet. When I started my family gave me all kinds of ****. Telling me I was going to fail, and saying stuff like why am I wasting money on food, etc... I just kept chugging along and eventually lost 15 lbs. At that time I had some personal problems that were affecting my grades in school. To top it all off my dad lost his job so I had to work more hours in order to pay the bills. Needless to say I fell of the wagon. I stopped working out and dropped the diet. I gained all the weight back.

After I got off my diet my family gave me even more ****. They were telling me how they were right and they knew I would fail. I tried not caring, but it really hurts coming from your family. I just thought they would be supportive of me, but they have been the complete opposite. For a while it really got me down. I just started up my diet/working out again and like clock work they keep trying to bring me down. I try not to care, but I can't. Every time I hear a stupid comment I just try to shrug it off. I'm just at a point where I don't know what to do. I don't want to care what they think, but every time they say something to me I feel bad like if I'm the one that's doing something wrong.

I'm at my wits end. How do you not care what other people think especially your family? How do you deal with haters like this? They just have a way to make me feel insignificant and small. I just don't know what to do.

Confront them about it. Tell them how you feel - let some steam out. If you don't want to give a **** what they think, than what better way to do by confronting them?

It takes time to not give a **** about what people think, it's becomes a part of your personality once you get used to it.

And if they still try to bring you down, than you'll just have to learn to handle it. Just a little tip for when your working out: as your doing your exercise, think of your family talking bad about you... It gets me ****ing furious and I just feel a lot better afterwards and it gives me an energy boost.

Cheers!

hahahah fat guy hahahaha

I'm usually one of the first to judge fat people... but at least this guy is trying to lose weight so give him a ****ing break.

 

[penkitten]

i imagine that they give you so much crap when you start thinking and acting positive about things, because they have lost all gumption to act that way themselves. they can't afford the bills and everything is going down the crapper.
just realize this, and don't take what they say personal.

remember school yard bullies always feeding off the negativity that they unleashed on others to make them feel better? same scenario, minus their ability to go to the school yard.