How to deal with "explosive" GF..

"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Fela Kuti

Senior Don Juan

May 12, 2008

Mavrick said:
You have to have boundaries and being yelled at crosses the line. If you tell her that you don't want her to do it, then back it up, and she won't do it anymore. If she wants you in her life, she will watch what she does, and all you have to do is back it up. Back it up by backing off, and when she brings it up, tell her exactly why you're not the same. Then when she has stopped, you reward her by giving her attention once again.

Yup, I already told her that I don't want her to yell at me ever again. She apologized, saying that she can't control herself when expressing her feelings but she'll try.

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.