"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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How to deal with being semi ghosted?

dk1990S111

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Talking to this one chick pretty regularly for a few days and then it drops off to about 24 hours after my last text just getting “lol”

I’m sure she’s just looking for attention by sending that so probably won’t even respond. Do you just write that woman off at that point?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Talking to this one chick pretty regularly for a few days and then it drops off to about 24 hours after my last text just getting “lol”

I’m sure she’s just looking for attention by sending that so probably won’t even respond. Do you just write that woman off at that point?
She is wasting your time, stop contacting her.
If she contact you schedule a date if she is not up for it NEXT
 

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There is such a thing as not giving much of a fvck. Stop thinking, stop trying to decide what to do and just go about your day. If she does get back to you after a day, a week or even a fvcking year you have wasted zero time because you lived your life without thinking about her. You can pick it up again and see where it goes, but DO NOT CARE too much.

Writing her off is like if she gets back to send a message after 24 hours you're going full ghost on her, no point doing that when the alternative is just as low effort. Answering texts is ultra low effort, it literally takes a minute so just answer and continue with your day.
 

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"LOL" with nothing else, no further response gets the same from me. Its low interest. Maybe you bored her to death with endless texting for days on end without inviting her to hang out.

At this point it is gone so who cares. In the future, send a few mysterious yet upbeat texts and then set up inviting her to hang out. Move fast.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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dk1990S111

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"LOL" with nothing else, no further response gets the same from me. Its low interest. Maybe you bored her to death with endless texting for days on end without inviting her to hang out.

At this point it is gone so who cares. In the future, send a few mysterious yet upbeat texts and then set up inviting her to hang out. Move fast.
Actually we talked Thursday, met up Friday night for a few hours got drinks. She just moved to the area so lives with her mom and wanted to know her better before inviting her to my place. She did ask if I had a roommate or anything when we were about to head home. Maybe trying to hint that she wanted to head back to my place, don’t know.

Last night after the lol text she sent another a little while later telling me she went to a new restaurant out here.
 

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Actually we talked Thursday, met up Friday night for a few hours got drinks. She just moved to the area so lives with her mom and wanted to know her better before inviting her to my place. She did ask if I had a roommate or anything when we were about to head home. Maybe trying to hint that she wanted to head back to my place, don’t know.
Yes.
Last night after the lol text she sent another a little while later telling me she went to a new restaurant out here.
"Is it any good? If it's not the best, come to my place for some good pizza and some sex. What? Fine, just sex, no pizza."

P.S. If she doesn't like pizza, she's not good wife material.
 
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