"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How to deal with bad days

Jokerlsk

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Fellow DJ's, AFC's, and site lurkers, today I've decided to devote my time on this new thead dedicated to dealing with bad days. Now we're all human, and we all are prone to mistakes, or just flat out bad days, but we can't let trivial, petty things like this hinder our day, and restrict our game. I for one have had bad days, and I just had one today, which made me think of creating this thread, but we just have to remember that our lives always move on. So lets say you made a 50 on a test. So what? Will that one 50 really restrict you from acheiving your career choice later down the road? So this really cool girl just LJBF you. So? Aren't there billions of other girls walking around the globe?

I had a bad day today, and I let my afc side get the best of me, but tomorrow is a new day, and I know that my mistakes won't prevent me from living life, and moving forward. I'm ashamed of myself for letting my afc side get the best of me, but i'm sure it happens to the best of us. I messed up with the girl, I wasn't prepared for my test, and I left my project at home. So what? There are hundreds more girls at my school, it's early in the sumester, and I canturn the project in tomorrow for a 10% deduction. Next time I'm going to try to catch myself and attempt to be more stoic, but even if I don't, so what?

Just remember that even when you feel like you've messed up beyond repair, tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Igetit!

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Boy,talk about a flip-flop turn-around. Is this the same Jokerisk who not even 24 hours ago made a thread called "I don't belong anywhere and I never will"?
Oh well. I have to keep reminding myself that you're still in high school.
Anyway,good thread here. Like you said,there are good days and bad days,and reminding yourself of your blessing will help see you through the bad ones. I like what you said about if you get LJBF'ed/rejected by a girl. A lot of guy approach women as if she's the last one on the planet. They're nervous,trembling,going through all sorts of different scenarios and outcomes in their mind. They "have to" get this right,when there are millions of other girls out there. Pretty good info man.
 

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i used to be like that.... i ask a girl out and OMG its my last day on earth.. really big deal.

Let me ask you.. something.. IS there one thing you are sick of? something you are numb to doing or dealing with in life and not just give a fuack about? (besides asking women out)

lets start there
 
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