How to deal with asking a girl out last minute?

[BannedGod]

I asked a girl out to play squash with me, and she agreed and all, gave her number, everything went well. The only problem is, I can only reserve squash courts 2 days in advance. This can become problematic because if, for example (this is what happened) I reserve a court for Sunday (made the reservation today), she was already busy (going up north with family) so it will be hard to find a date where she isn't busy and where I can get a court. On the other hand, if I call her, say Monday or Tuesday, and tell her that we are playing Saturday, there is no guarantee I can get a court for that day.

On a sidenote, I took one of my female friend to play squash (first time I did an action date with a girl). Although I know she is just a friend, she sees me as a friend and I am not even interested in her, it was still good practice for me. And it also made me realize how good action dates can be. It's hard to explain, but while we were playing I was getting so much positive vibe from her; the way she acted, the way she looked and smile at me, the little extra kino she did compared to usual, it was quite different from usually when we just hang out and talk. I could kind of feel her more alive. I don't really know how to explain, but it made me realize how true it is to treat women like little girls and take them out to move. She just seemed much more please/natural when we played squash then when we just hang out and go for coffee or whatever. Hard to explain but I think you guys get my point.

 

[JDA70]

Did you tell her that you have to reserve a court?

 

[BannedGod]

Did you tell her that you have to reserve a court?

yup she knows. Do you think next time I call her (around Tuesday) I should just tell her I'll reserve a court for either Saturday or Sunday (depending when I'm free) and then hope I can get one, otherwise I cancel? Seems better to me then reserve one and hope she doesn't already have plans (less trouble for me at least, I don't have to run after her)

 

[skirtChaser]

forget the court, just tell her you have one, then, when you go and pick her up drive someplace and park, reach over and squeeze her t its, tell her when you said squash, you were talking about squashing her t its. chances are she already knows this game.

 

[JDA70]

Well heres the thing. Alot of girls like to be lead so
you will hear advice from others and me to say stuff like,
"I have Tuesday and Saturday free what day works best for you?"
With that said some how you got to get her to commit.
One of my question is, is she really tring to work it out with you
or just using her unknown schedule as and excuse?

 

[ready123]

action dates are always better because the endorphins flow naturally. on top of that you can role play competitively, which is a fun way to build chemistry. for some reason you're anchoring the quality of the date to squash only. if reserving a court makes it harder for you to do schedule, forget about squash, pick another physical activity instead

tennis, dancing, wrestle her in your apartment, whatever

 

[BannedGod]

Well heres the thing. Alot of girls like to be lead so
you will hear advice from others and me to say stuff like,
"I have Tuesday and Saturday free what day works best for you?"
With that said some how you got to get her to commit.
One of my question is, is she really tring to work it out with you
or just using her unknown schedule as and excuse?

Yea that's a good suggestion, I think next time I talk to her I'll do something like that. Tell her I can either Saturday (i rarely work on Saturday) or Thursday night. As for the second part, I just called her once and she was up North, so I don't know if she is giving me BS excuses or real ones. But if I do what you suggested and on both times she gives excuses, she's probably simply BSing me so I'll just let her rot in hell.

action dates are always better because the endorphins flow naturally. on top of that you can role play competitively, which is a fun way to build chemistry. for some reason you're anchoring the quality of the date to squash only. if reserving a court makes it harder for you to do schedule, forget about squash, pick another physical activity instead

tennis, dancing, wrestle her in your apartment, whatever

You, sir, are also right. Although I really want to go play squash with her because she is an avid Tennis player and I think she would be quite good, I guess if I do like I mentioned and I end up not being able to get a court, I could always propose something totally different to her (Ice skate, workout with me, etc).

So I guess my new plan could be: Ask her out (for lack of a better term) Saturday (or whatever day is good with me), try to reserve a Squash court, but if I can't, propose something different, and if she gives me a BS excuse, punch her in the ovaries and never talk to her again... Either that or NEXT her, I haven't made up my mind.

Good plan?

 

[JDA70]

Well then you should call her and ask her what
her schedule is for the week.
Then you can make your next move based on her reply.

 

[BannedGod]

Well then you should call her and ask her what
her schedule is for the week.
Then you can make your next move based on her reply.

Ok... Maybe I'm completely wrong, but wouldn't that end up making me look dependent of her to set the date? Or maybe I'm just being stupid (completely new to setting dates, not too long ago I didn't even dare approach a girl, even less get her phone number)