"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How to deal with an insane ex?

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Okay, I've got a problem.

My insane (and I do mean that) ex girlfriend has made it her mission to try and make my life miserable, mainly by making crap up about me and telling it to my friends. Most of them don't believe her, but some do.

Mainly I think she's bitter that I broke up with her - she had major attachment problems, and I must have told her 50 times that I wanted space in a relationship.

I'm leaving for university in less than a month, so I don't really have to worry about it long term, but it sure as hell is annoying in the short term.

What should I do?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Your real friends will know what's going on, don't sweat it.
 
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Well that's the thing, I've been trying that ever since I dumped her (it's been a couple months) but the more time that goes on, the worse she seems to get.

I guess as long as I show that I'm not willing to descend to her level, it'll be alright.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Monty said:
Well that's the thing, I've been trying that ever since I dumped her (it's been a couple months) but the more time that goes on, the worse she seems to get.

I guess as long as I show that I'm not willing to descend to her level, it'll be alright.
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I wouldn't be too worried about her unless it gets to the point where it seriously interferes with your personal life or there is possible physical harm to you or anyone else you know.
 
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