I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I remember when I found out that the girl I went "steady" with in high school thought she was pretty (she was). It was a bit of a turn off for me, honestly. But she explained to me how she was insecure about everything else - that her looks were the one thing she was happy with. I thought that made sense, and seemed like a uniquely female way of looking at things.RustleYourJimmies said:
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
By letting them do almost all of the texting/initiating, and by declining 2/3 of their offers. But just when they think you are out with another girl, drop them one line of poetry (or something). When you're doing it right she'll say things like "always keeping me confused".RustleYourJimmies said:
