"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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How to deal with a girl trying to pick fights

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shinko

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To cut to the chase, there's this girl who i've been chatting up the past few weeks. We're on the same course etc at uni and we've had our diso due, so i havent gone out with her yet because of the deadlines. i told her straight up i was gona ask her out after though,since everything was kinda leading that way and i wanted to make my intentions obvious. she's apparently never had a serious relationship before so she's abit shy and inexperienced and was abit taken aback by my forward proposal. she said yes nonetheless, so skip skipping forward a few weeks to today we're chatting.

She dropped in near the beginning about some other dude trying to chat her up etc, which i countered with indifference and made fun of her about him. All good so far but then as the convo progressed, she started trying to pick holes in everything i said and find fault with it. I called her on it and she said "sorry... I feel like being irritating today" and "ok.. im sorry.. Im bored.." I cut the talk there and then because it was getting stupid. she gets back to me later though and to cut a long story short did it all over again and ended up calling me sexist and some other stuff way way off the mark. Which is when i lost it and told her to take a hike.

i know i made the mistake of talking to her a second time, i should just ignored her for a while, but what i would appreciate is some advice on dealing with girls when they try to a pick a fight, or get a raise out of me. Staying calm is one thing, but actually dealing with it so it doesnt happen again is another.I wanna be able to set her straight, without making it obvious she got under my skin
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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She's insecure, and if she can get under your skin it makes her feel better. She's got the bully attitude toward you. It brings her up and brings you down. Don't let any of it phase you. Don't let her opinions be yours. Have your own mind and don't bend to hers. She'll test you, too.

I dated a girl who was the polar opposite of me and my beliefs. It wasn't a problem for her because she like me and didn't see any need to argue over trivial things. She liked me enough not to argue. What was attractive to her though was that I had standards and firm beliefs. Girls like guys who stand for something.

Another option is to get rid of her. Stop talking to her because it may never change. Some people click and some people clash.
 
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