"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How to create sex appeal

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imagine a guy who has 0 sex appeal. Is sex appeal something you are born with or is a trait created and developed in our life?

if someone can point me out some interesting reads and tips about the subject besides the dj bible i appreciate it
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I believe it's both. I think that you can have physical sex appeal (be attractive) or mental sex appeal (confidence), and you can only develop mental sex appeal (aside from something like being well dressed or working out; but you can't make your face more attractive). Unfortunately, I don't have any books or anything that discuss this.

Note: I don't claim to have a high position in the community, so this isn't a very sound answer--just my opinion.
 
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DoctorCoops said:
I believe it's both. I think that you can have physical sex appeal (be attractive) or mental sex appeal (confidence), and you can only develop mental sex appeal (aside from something like being well dressed or working out; but you can't make your face more attractive). Unfortunately, I don't have any books or anything that discuss this.

Note: I don't claim to have a high position in the community, so this isn't a very sound answer--just my opinion.
I have some comments. Yes, you can trememdously improve your sex appeal.

You can go from a crappy or terribly fat body to a very built one.

You can improve your confidence and swagger.

And your face can improve, because if you have a fat face or a face with no self esteem, a confident face looks better.

Since you are a male women put a high premium on your body and confidence, your face don't need all that, they just want a lot of confidence.
 

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DaddyLongShanks said:
I have some comments. Yes, you can trememdously improve your sex appeal.

You can go from a crappy or terribly fat body to a very built one.

You can improve your confidence and swagger.

And your face can improve, because if you have a fat face or a face with no self esteem, a confident face looks better.

Since you are a male women put a high premium on your body and confidence, your face don't need all that, they just want a lot of confidence.
I agree, but I was talking about like maximum sex appeal--like model status. In that case, an attractive face matters. In the real world, though, you can easily get by with a nice body and a confident demeanor.
 

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Look at bodybuilder bodies - and then just the head.The head is like .... mmm ... average Joe ... or Bob from accounting ... or daddy .... but body is pure sex.Now combine head and body and you go from Mr NobodySpecial to MrIThinkIwill****ThisGuy.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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NeedToImprove said:
imagine a guy who has 0 sex appeal. Is sex appeal something you are born with or is a trait created and developed in our life?

if someone can point me out some interesting reads and tips about the subject besides the dj bible i appreciate it
Love yourself like its nobody's business
 

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tailor everything , and i mean everything

haircuts
clothes
diet
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