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Master Don Juan
If you've been approaching lately, you know it's kinda tough sometimes.
Sure, if you're in a good mood, and you're with your boys, it can feel like you're king of the world.
But other times, it feels like pure work, with nothing to show for it.
There's some techniques you can practice that will create a burning unconscious desire, rather than an "obligation" to approach every girl that interests you.
However, this takes some time to build up. It's not like there's a magical "approach" switch in your brain they forgot to tell you about.
It's like those exercise gyroscope things for your wrists. Those things that take a while to start spinning, but once they get going, you can feel their power.
Anyhow, here's what you do.
You'll need to separate these "practice" approaches from your "regular" approaches.
See a cute girl, go up and introduce yourself, or say something, or whatever.
The SECOND you get ANY KIND of positive response from her, BAIL OUT IMMEDIATELY.
This is incredibly difficult, because once a guy sees a girl giving him clear and obvious signs of interest, especially in a one on one conversation, evolutionary programming takes over and your caveman brain is pretty much screaming:
FULL SPEED AHEAD!
Resist this urge with all your might. You WANT to walk away just when she's getting turned on.
Why?
Think about a regular approach. All the times you DON'T get the number, you leave with a feeling of not getting what you wanted. And even some of the times where you DID get the number, she may have given it to you just to get rid of you (sad but true).
But by doing these "practice" approaches, where you purposely BAIL OUT right when things start getting good, you'll be building up a lot of good experiences.
Meaning when you walk away, you'll be thinking "Dude you coulda done more!"
Let's look at some basic math. Let's say you do a hundred approaches a week, the old way. Let's say you're extremely good, and you get fifty numbers. And let's say that out of those fifty, only twenty five of them are really potential. The rest are throwaways.
That's only 25 out of a 100 really good experiences from an approach. So every time you see a girl, your brain is going to MOSTLY recall those 75 times where you DIDN'T get what you wanted.
Now let's consider that you do 50 approaches the regular way, and 50 practice approaches.
Out of the 50, you get 25 phone numbers, of which 15 are really good.
But out of the 50 "practice" approaches, most of them you leave with a good feeling. A feeling that THE GIRL WANTED YOU TO STAY. Let's say 40 out of 50 went like this.
Now, when you see a girl, you've got a hundred approaches, and fully 65 of them (40 good practice approaches, and 15 regular approaches) gave you a really good feeling.
This means that when you see girls, instead of feeling anxiety, remembering all the rejections, you'll suddenly get a positive feeling of GIRLS WANTING YOU.
See how this works?
Naturally,the more "practice" approaches you do, the quicker you'll build up this awesome feeling of expectation and excitement, instead of anxiety.
Sure, if you're in a good mood, and you're with your boys, it can feel like you're king of the world.
But other times, it feels like pure work, with nothing to show for it.
There's some techniques you can practice that will create a burning unconscious desire, rather than an "obligation" to approach every girl that interests you.
However, this takes some time to build up. It's not like there's a magical "approach" switch in your brain they forgot to tell you about.
It's like those exercise gyroscope things for your wrists. Those things that take a while to start spinning, but once they get going, you can feel their power.
Anyhow, here's what you do.
You'll need to separate these "practice" approaches from your "regular" approaches.
See a cute girl, go up and introduce yourself, or say something, or whatever.
The SECOND you get ANY KIND of positive response from her, BAIL OUT IMMEDIATELY.
This is incredibly difficult, because once a guy sees a girl giving him clear and obvious signs of interest, especially in a one on one conversation, evolutionary programming takes over and your caveman brain is pretty much screaming:
FULL SPEED AHEAD!
Resist this urge with all your might. You WANT to walk away just when she's getting turned on.
Why?
Think about a regular approach. All the times you DON'T get the number, you leave with a feeling of not getting what you wanted. And even some of the times where you DID get the number, she may have given it to you just to get rid of you (sad but true).
But by doing these "practice" approaches, where you purposely BAIL OUT right when things start getting good, you'll be building up a lot of good experiences.
Meaning when you walk away, you'll be thinking "Dude you coulda done more!"
Let's look at some basic math. Let's say you do a hundred approaches a week, the old way. Let's say you're extremely good, and you get fifty numbers. And let's say that out of those fifty, only twenty five of them are really potential. The rest are throwaways.
That's only 25 out of a 100 really good experiences from an approach. So every time you see a girl, your brain is going to MOSTLY recall those 75 times where you DIDN'T get what you wanted.
Now let's consider that you do 50 approaches the regular way, and 50 practice approaches.
Out of the 50, you get 25 phone numbers, of which 15 are really good.
But out of the 50 "practice" approaches, most of them you leave with a good feeling. A feeling that THE GIRL WANTED YOU TO STAY. Let's say 40 out of 50 went like this.
Now, when you see a girl, you've got a hundred approaches, and fully 65 of them (40 good practice approaches, and 15 regular approaches) gave you a really good feeling.
This means that when you see girls, instead of feeling anxiety, remembering all the rejections, you'll suddenly get a positive feeling of GIRLS WANTING YOU.
See how this works?
Naturally,the more "practice" approaches you do, the quicker you'll build up this awesome feeling of expectation and excitement, instead of anxiety.