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Let's face it when you start dating, you're going to get rejected, that's just all a part of the game. Just like a professional boxer knows he's going to get punched in the face a lot, anyone who aspires to be good with women should be well aware you're going to get rejected a lot.
Which is why it's important to know how to cope with rejection. Only when you master the ability to cope with failure, will you be able to get good with women.
Here are some ways which I have used to cope with rejection.
1. Failure may hurt, but never trying hurts even more.
Tell me, has there ever been someone that you REALLY liked but you were too scared to anything about it? You could have asked for her name, her number, where she wants to go on a date? Now the only question you'll ever be asking is what if... Weeks later, months later, maybe even years later, you look back and think, had I of just had the courage to talk to her and ask her out, maybe just maybe we could have been together.
And sure had you of asked her out and she said no, it would hurt for a week or two. But letting someone you really like simply walk away, that's something that can hurt for a long time.
2. Understand that rejection is simply a part of the game.
When a professional NFL player takes he field, he knows very well that he's going to get tackled a lot, and sometimes it's going to hurt. When a boxer enters the ring, he knows very well that he's going to get punched in the face.
It's the same thing with dating. Failure, heartbreak, and rejection are simply a part of the game. When you take that field, and go out there and ask out that girl from class who you think is cute, there's a chance she's going to say no, or she says she has a boyfriend. That's just simply a part of the game.
3. Simply Don't Get Your Hopes Up In The First Place So Rejection Won't Hurt As Bad
When you get your hopes up, that's when it hurts to get rejected even more. For instance, when I first signed up for Tinder and when I got a match with a pretty girl, I would get super excited thinking she was going to be the woman of my dreams and I would begin to fantasize about us being together. Without even sending the first message, I concluded that we were going to be together. And of course I got ghosted time and time again by many different women.
So I learned that to cope with rejection, the trick is to never get your hopes up too soon. Now that doesn't mean you shouldn't try, it just means try to not get too excited too quickly because these things are not that big of a deal. Try to get in the mindset of asking for a girl's number, asking to go out on a date, is not that big of a deal, it's just something that happened because you thought she was cute.
4. Rejection is simply a form of incompatibility
Let's face it, not everybody is going to find you attractive. Different girls respond to different things, some women are into country boys who like to hunt and shoot deer, other women want a skinny baby-faced city slicker who's into tech. Some women would notice my short stature and be immediately turned off by it, other women although not their ideal will at least look past my height.
If a woman rejects you simply because you're not her type, then there's nothing you can do about that. Just try to find someone who's willing to give you a shot.
5. The more you fail, the greater it feels is to succeed.
Think about the New England Patriots, they have won many super bowls under the rein of Tom Brady. And even though it feels good to win, when you've won that many times, it doesn't hold as big of a significance. You're used to winning that it almost gets to the point where it's no longer that big of a deal.
Now think of the 2016 Cleveland Cavaliers when Lebron James led the Cavaliers to the finals. He FINALLY brought Cleveland a championship, after 50+ years of failure and heartbreak. And i'm sure that feeling was amazing.
It's the same with dating when you've been rejected a lot. When you finally start seeing results, when you start going on dates, when you have sex for the first time, when you get your first girlfriend it's going to feel like an accomplishment because you actually worked for it. You've been rejected time and time again and it finally paid off. And guess what? I bet that you're less likely to take it for granted too compared to someone who had partners just simply come to them.
Which is why it's important to know how to cope with rejection. Only when you master the ability to cope with failure, will you be able to get good with women.
Here are some ways which I have used to cope with rejection.
1. Failure may hurt, but never trying hurts even more.
Tell me, has there ever been someone that you REALLY liked but you were too scared to anything about it? You could have asked for her name, her number, where she wants to go on a date? Now the only question you'll ever be asking is what if... Weeks later, months later, maybe even years later, you look back and think, had I of just had the courage to talk to her and ask her out, maybe just maybe we could have been together.
And sure had you of asked her out and she said no, it would hurt for a week or two. But letting someone you really like simply walk away, that's something that can hurt for a long time.
2. Understand that rejection is simply a part of the game.
When a professional NFL player takes he field, he knows very well that he's going to get tackled a lot, and sometimes it's going to hurt. When a boxer enters the ring, he knows very well that he's going to get punched in the face.
It's the same thing with dating. Failure, heartbreak, and rejection are simply a part of the game. When you take that field, and go out there and ask out that girl from class who you think is cute, there's a chance she's going to say no, or she says she has a boyfriend. That's just simply a part of the game.
3. Simply Don't Get Your Hopes Up In The First Place So Rejection Won't Hurt As Bad
When you get your hopes up, that's when it hurts to get rejected even more. For instance, when I first signed up for Tinder and when I got a match with a pretty girl, I would get super excited thinking she was going to be the woman of my dreams and I would begin to fantasize about us being together. Without even sending the first message, I concluded that we were going to be together. And of course I got ghosted time and time again by many different women.
So I learned that to cope with rejection, the trick is to never get your hopes up too soon. Now that doesn't mean you shouldn't try, it just means try to not get too excited too quickly because these things are not that big of a deal. Try to get in the mindset of asking for a girl's number, asking to go out on a date, is not that big of a deal, it's just something that happened because you thought she was cute.
4. Rejection is simply a form of incompatibility
Let's face it, not everybody is going to find you attractive. Different girls respond to different things, some women are into country boys who like to hunt and shoot deer, other women want a skinny baby-faced city slicker who's into tech. Some women would notice my short stature and be immediately turned off by it, other women although not their ideal will at least look past my height.
If a woman rejects you simply because you're not her type, then there's nothing you can do about that. Just try to find someone who's willing to give you a shot.
5. The more you fail, the greater it feels is to succeed.
Think about the New England Patriots, they have won many super bowls under the rein of Tom Brady. And even though it feels good to win, when you've won that many times, it doesn't hold as big of a significance. You're used to winning that it almost gets to the point where it's no longer that big of a deal.
Now think of the 2016 Cleveland Cavaliers when Lebron James led the Cavaliers to the finals. He FINALLY brought Cleveland a championship, after 50+ years of failure and heartbreak. And i'm sure that feeling was amazing.
It's the same with dating when you've been rejected a lot. When you finally start seeing results, when you start going on dates, when you have sex for the first time, when you get your first girlfriend it's going to feel like an accomplishment because you actually worked for it. You've been rejected time and time again and it finally paid off. And guess what? I bet that you're less likely to take it for granted too compared to someone who had partners just simply come to them.
