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How to control nerves during cold approaches?

Deicide

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Hey, I decided after a short break that I wanted to get back into cold approach pick up. Though, the break didn't help any of my problems and my anxiety is even worse since I got back into it. I am going to go to local bars along with day game locations to get my nerves and everything worked out though. Last time around I just depended on Day Game exclusively.
But my nerves wreck me before I even approach everytime. If talking to a stranger wasn't hard enough, my nerves make me feel tight and I'm not relaxed at all when I approach. I also can't help but hesitate before approaches. So I never have this feeling of positive superiority when I approach. Instead, it's me dragging myself to do it. Though I'm focusing on other things besides pick up so I never become obsessed with that small aspect of my life ever again.
Like today, I saw this cute girl with a couple kids(I don't want LTR's, so kids are ok since I'm just trying to bang the woman). I hesitated and felt that familiar nervous feeling. Though I did approach her directly and she seemed suprised in a good way. Though I approached at a bad time since she was just getting on her phone. That killed momentum. So I just waited near her area looking at stuff, then when she got off, I reapproached, talked briefly, though it was hard to get out creative ideas because I was so nervous. She was dealing with kids too so her mind was everywhere. She finally said nice to meet you and left. I felt pissed at myself for messing up. I know I could've done so much better though.

So what can I do to lessen my nerves? Because they're affecting my approach performance and I still want that lifestyle of being good at cold approach pick up and having multiple women in my life.
 

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Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Do things for yourself that make you inherently feel better and more confident in yourself, ie workout and build your body, take care of business and advance with your job and or school if you are in it, set goals for yourself and achieve them.

Other than that, got to just practice. One thing that helped me out of slump recently was going for the more plain average looking ones. Once I went through a few of them it helped muster me up for the hotter ones.
 

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Warmup is critical. Don't wait until the girl is in front of you to get your game on.

Call a buddy and chat for a while. Talk to the bartender. Talk to guys. Talk to older women. Do a few "crash and burn" sets.

Once you are warmed up, the anxiety isn't too bad. But your first conversation of the night is the hardest.
 

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Mike32ct said:
Warmup is critical. Don't wait until the girl is in front of you to get your game on.

Call a buddy and chat for a while. Talk to the bartender. Talk to guys. Talk to older women. Do a few "crash and burn" sets.

Once you are warmed up, the anxiety isn't too bad. But your first conversation of the night is the hardest.
Yeah, that's what usually happens. And that is definitely good advice for night game. I'm doing small town day game so I'm fortunate to find one cold approach opportunity when I'm out and about(town of 5K people or so, real small). That means I can be caught nervous and cold like this evening, not good. But, I'm going to try to make my nerves go away and realize that all this anxiety is irrational.
 

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Link pleasure to things you find difficult. positive self talk. Its fun to talk to that girl. It actually is.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Deicide said:
Hey, I decided after a short break that I wanted to get back into cold approach pick up. Though, the break didn't help any of my problems and my anxiety is even worse since I got back into it. I am going to go to local bars along with day game locations to get my nerves and everything worked out though. Last time around I just depended on Day Game exclusively.
But my nerves wreck me before I even approach everytime. If talking to a stranger wasn't hard enough, my nerves make me feel tight and I'm not relaxed at all when I approach. I also can't help but hesitate before approaches. So I never have this feeling of positive superiority when I approach. Instead, it's me dragging myself to do it. Though I'm focusing on other things besides pick up so I never become obsessed with that small aspect of my life ever again.
Like today, I saw this cute girl with a couple kids(I don't want LTR's, so kids are ok since I'm just trying to bang the woman). I hesitated and felt that familiar nervous feeling. Though I did approach her directly and she seemed suprised in a good way. Though I approached at a bad time since she was just getting on her phone. That killed momentum. So I just waited near her area looking at stuff, then when she got off, I reapproached, talked briefly, though it was hard to get out creative ideas because I was so nervous. She was dealing with kids too so her mind was everywhere. She finally said nice to meet you and left. I felt pissed at myself for messing up. I know I could've done so much better though.

So what can I do to lessen my nerves? Because they're affecting my approach performance and I still want that lifestyle of being good at cold approach pick up and having multiple women in my life.

I believe approach anxiety may be worse now then before because you already had a taste of whats out there, where as before you were carrying the "I've got nothing to lose" attitude due to lack of awareness. I think you should ease your way back into cold approaching and you'll be back to your brave self with much less time and effort then before. You're currently out of touch with a highly important portion of your inner game and now it's time to get it back! Let me know how it works out for you man.
 
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