how to connect emotionally with a woman?

[22proto]

most of the skills talked about on here are about flirting and having enough game to set up a date, but what about conversastion during the date?

how do we emotionally connect with a woman?
cuz once we do that, there's practically no need to be ****y and funny all the time


as a side note ive been applying this seduction stuff for the past 6 months, it works, but i feel i dont have enough actual experience to make my actions seem smoothe past the initial impression, which is actually pretty good.

what do we talk about, give some examples and maybe an example conversation

by the way ONLY GIVE ADVICE IF YOU'VE TRIED IT SUCCESSFULLY

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Talk about things that intrigue her, not small talk. Look into her eyes. Talk slowly and deeply. Let her believe that she's the absolute only thing on your mind at the moment you're talking to her. Talk about things related to her feelings.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Talk about things that intrigue her, not small talk. Look into her eyes. Talk slowly and deeply. Let her believe that she's the absolute only thing on your mind at the moment you're talking to her. Talk about things related to her feelings.

Youngblood is right about this. You should do some research on anchoring and NLP. Don't take that sh!t as gospel but it's intriguing how the right combination of words and body language can make a woman fvckin' putty in your fingers. The emotional link is what you're going after.

Lots of eye contact but not weirdo staring. Try talking to yourself in a mirror and see if you'd fall for you. If not, work on it.

 

[I-am-someone]

It's a matter of practice...
I just like digging into their inner workings and find out what they're really like. Often, that way you'll also find out if a woman is relationsh1t material or fvck material .

 

[CompleteControl]

Be careful! This stuff can be very powerful. You must move the sexual stuff or you can risk becoming her girlfriend.

WORKEROUTER is correct. Body Language, eye contact are very important. You need to talk about things that are important to her on a deep emotional level.

Take a genuine interest in what is of deep importance to her.

Ask her questions.

Conversation:
(You must establish rapport and a level of comfort with her first!)

"So, you like blueberry pop tarts, skiing, and your favorite color is pink. You know just knowing someone superficially is enough for some guys - but I like to get to know what is really important to someone."

"What are you most passionate about in life?"

"When were you the most happy in life?"

"When you go really deep inside your mind, and think about what would make you unbelievably happy - what would that be?"

"If you could imagine meeting a man who would be everything you have ever dreamed of, what would he be like?"

Then REALLY listen to what she has to say!

Women will say things to me like "You are the only one who truly understands me"

You may want to look into some of the NLP stuff - deep rapport, eliciting values.

I reiterate - be careful, the results of a truly strong emotional connection can be frightening at times. Don't bother with women that you just want to screw and then dump - you may have trouble getting rid of them!

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Sharing random stories about your past is also a good way to make her feel closer to you.

Lets say you're cuddling and not talking you can just stop for a sec and say "you know, when I was about 6, around christmas time, I still believed in santa claus, little did I know that... etc."

I've noticed this works real well to have an "intimate" moment with someone, especially if the story reveals a moment of weakness or doubt or stress.

 

[Jariel]

Emotional connections tend to happen as a result of close experiences, rather than conversational material or personality. It's a combination of experiences where each time you think "I wish I could stay like this forever" - even if that experience is merely talking.

Frankly, I have more interesting conversations with my female friends than I do my girlfriend, but waking up with my girlfriend snuggled against me, walking hand in hand on a dark night or just feeling that high we both get when we're together are experiences that make me fall deeper for her.

I also remember the girl I was with prior to my girlfriend. Originally I found her quite attractive, but not really my type. We became mates, then one night we were watching a movie and she fell asleep on my chest. It felt so good and was a moment I wanted to last forever. Next time we met, she fell asleep on me again until it became a bit of a tradition. We hadn't talked much and didn't even know much about each other, but it turned out we both felt the same way and were both falling hard for each other.

A similar thing happened with my ex from a year ago. I found her hot, but totally not my type. She asked to come home with me and I rejected her. As I was walking her to the train station she wrapped her arms round me and started crying. I stood in the middle of the city holding her, it was freezing cold, and yet I never wanted that moment to end. I developed strong feelings for her after that and we got together.

You can fvck a girl for years and never fall in love. You can have female friends who make perfect company, and still see them as friends only. But then you can spend just one close experience with a girl and she can steal your heart.

 

[I-am-someone]

Hmm... well said Jariel.

 

[Zerotwoonenine]

jariel you lucky bastd, i am 17 and i still have never got close to anyone like that. I mean i am an only child so it gets very lonely sometimes, i am in a forign country and somehow i have never found a place where i truly belong or someone i truely felt close to and can share secret with.
I guess thats why i want to become a master DJ, not to sleep with more women, but to find the one girl whos right for me.

 

[OceanWindRider]

I'd say: SpeedSeduction, some NLP etc.
A couple of my friends really swear by the book by JDFuentes "Sexual key".
In this book he teaches how to be creative and what to say to make women fall for you or make them highly aroused within minutes.
I have not read it myself - I just looked at it yesterday. It takes time to learn to talk this way. But I can see how talking this way can totally blow a woman's mind. you create a deep emotional connection with a woman.

What phrases CompleteControl was saying is good too. I am gonna incorporate them in my talk with women - for starters.