Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
If she even mentions the word "boyfriend" I will feel devastated and my heart will sink. I just hope she doesn't bring it up. It would be pretty weird if she did, wouldn't it?
Everything is what you make of it. If she brings it up, smile like it is a funny joke, "Boyfriend? Oh no, that poor guy. He's at home, while you're out with me" then smile slyly and stare into her eyes.
We all flirt a little differently, but to me it is mostly good-natured teasing. If you tease her well enough, she will playfully hit you on the arm and initiate physical contact. Tease her about being a contradiction, and blow little things out of proportion, in a fun way. If there is one glaring fault about her, then stay away from that. Don't call a tall woman an "amazon," she has heard it before. Also, weight is too sensitive a topic. Anything else is fair game - her dangerous-looking shoes, her blond hair, her big purse, anything that seems humourous to you. Laugh, have fun, and enjoy a good-natured joke at her expense. That's flirting. Neg-hits are a sign of confidence and lack of neediness; if she gets offended, it's her fault for not being able to take a joke.
Now contrast this to your idea of flirting, which in your defense is held by a majority of guys. Compliments, gifts, and nice-guy behavior give off the vibe of a needy wuss. Popular culture and even some women will tell us that they want to be told they're beautiful, showered with expensive gifts, and have a guy who professes his incredible luck just to be with her. Unfortunately, when we do these things in real life; women lose interest immediately, especially the most desireable women. Society has conditioned you to be mr nice guy, but that's how to finish last with women. I see it at school every day. AFCs smother girls with niceness in an attempt to create attraction, but it never works.
Also, here is another tip, whenever you talk to her, always steer the conversation to that which is fun, sexy, and exciting. Avoid all things negative whenever possible, also avoid boring subjects like work. If she has a passion for a topic you consider stupid; don't tell her. If it makes her happy to ramble on about something that makes her have fun/sex/excitement, then let her. If she starts talking about something negative, like how much she hates her coworkers, then change the subject. This a form of NLP anchoring, which I think is a derivation of the psychological power of association. You want her to associate you only with that which is fun, sexy, and exciting.
Everything is what you make of it. If she brings it up, smile like it is a funny joke, "Boyfriend? Oh no, that poor guy. He's at home, while you're out with me" then smile slyly and stare into her eyes.
We all flirt a little differently, but to me it is mostly good-natured teasing. If you tease her well enough, she will playfully hit you on the arm and initiate physical contact. Tease her about being a contradiction, and blow little things out of proportion, in a fun way. If there is one glaring fault about her, then stay away from that. Don't call a tall woman an "amazon," she has heard it before. Also, weight is too sensitive a topic. Anything else is fair game - her dangerous-looking shoes, her blond hair, her big purse, anything that seems humourous to you. Laugh, have fun, and enjoy a good-natured joke at her expense. That's flirting. Neg-hits are a sign of confidence and lack of neediness; if she gets offended, it's her fault for not being able to take a joke.
Now contrast this to your idea of flirting, which in your defense is held by a majority of guys. Compliments, gifts, and nice-guy behavior give off the vibe of a needy wuss. Popular culture and even some women will tell us that they want to be told they're beautiful, showered with expensive gifts, and have a guy who professes his incredible luck just to be with her. Unfortunately, when we do these things in real life; women lose interest immediately, especially the most desireable women. Society has conditioned you to be mr nice guy, but that's how to finish last with women. I see it at school every day. AFCs smother girls with niceness in an attempt to create attraction, but it never works.
Also, here is another tip, whenever you talk to her, always steer the conversation to that which is fun, sexy, and exciting. Avoid all things negative whenever possible, also avoid boring subjects like work. If she has a passion for a topic you consider stupid; don't tell her. If it makes her happy to ramble on about something that makes her have fun/sex/excitement, then let her. If she starts talking about something negative, like how much she hates her coworkers, then change the subject. This a form of NLP anchoring, which I think is a derivation of the psychological power of association. You want her to associate you only with that which is fun, sexy, and exciting.
